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Shark phobia

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mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 13:11

Name change for this one

Embarrassed to admit but I have a terrible shark phobia

I am 45 and it of course started with watching Jaws at a very young age.

I used to be ok snorkelling and swimming in tropical seas in my twenties but for some reason my phobia has worsened with age

I can no longer swim in a pool alone (even not alone my heart races in the deep end) I panic swimming in a lake unless I can touch the bottom. I will only paddle in the Mediterranean sea and just will not go swimming or do any water activity. I won't swim in the UK sea (but not hard as lots of sewage warnings near me)

I cannot do the above as a just visualise a shark behind me as it seems very graphic and real. The logic of a shark being in a pool /lake of course is ridiculous but I cannot stop the paralysing fear.

My children have teased me by showing pictures of open mouthed great whites and my heart feels like it stops .

Anyone else? can I overcome this somehow? I don't think it impacts my life too much and of course I can live without swimming but any advice would be appreciated!

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mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 20:48

Chypre · 10/09/2024 18:13

Phobias are irrational, but also sometimes phobias need a little bit more information... No fish can survive not only chlorinated pool water, but even the plain tap water. I have a freshwater aquarium with tropical fish, if I mess up the water change (forget to add de-chlorinator, conditioner or binder) fish immediately cling to the surface gasping for air or trying to jump out. Even if there would be a shark in a pool or lake, it would be a dead shark at the bottom. Harmless.
Also saltwater animals can't live in freshwater, their organs fail. Just like we can't breathe underwater or be in a space devoid of oxygen.

Edited

bless you for taking the time to explain to a stranger on the internet why sharks can't be in a swimming pool. Smile .
The extra information does help thank you

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Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:49

😆😆

Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:51

I remember when camping as a child saying to my parents that I was scared of bears. They reassured me there were no wild bears but I was like what if one escapes a zoo or private collection!!

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 20:52

Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:42

@Chypre I know that hence why I said they are found in rivers…

“The species has been spotted 2,500 miles (4,000 kilometers) up the Amazon River in South America and dwell in Lake Nicaragua, a freshwater lake in Central America. Bull sharks have traveled up the Mississippi River as far north as Illinois and are regularly spotted in India's Ganges.”

There were some in survived years in a golf course pond!

www.livescience.com/animals/sharks/the-strange-story-of-sharks-that-lived-in-a-golf-course-pond-for-20-years-then-vanished

oh Christ!! See with sharks the more I read about them the more scared I get. Like yesterday hearing that GW have been spotted off the British Isles . Terrifying

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Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:54

Did anyone watch that river monsters show? Some of those fishes were scarier than sharks!

Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:56

@mumtumfun i hope I’ve not scared you but best to be prepared!

Technically our waters would suit GWs but I didn’t think there had been a confirmed sighting.

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 20:56

thoonerismspread · 10/09/2024 20:46

Oh and dark pools are the worst. I almost had a panic attack in the holiday inn in Edinburgh!

Haha I am so pleased I am not the only one . Holiday Inn pool In edinburgh sounds so silly but I have also had many , many silly moments which have included a hotel lift in Miami (shiny ceiling) and my bath....

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PaperSheet · 10/09/2024 20:56

Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:54

Did anyone watch that river monsters show? Some of those fishes were scarier than sharks!

I love that show. Jeremy Wade can make even terrifying fish fascinating! His enthusiasm and love for fish is great to watch!

SilenceInside · 10/09/2024 20:57

The thing is, it's irrational. I know very well that a great white shark cannot survive in a chlorinated swimming pool. The science on that is pretty obvious. But, the irrational bit of my brain ignores that and comes up with nonsense like it would live long enough to thrash around and get one bite in before it expired!

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 21:00

Trainerstrainers · 10/09/2024 20:56

@mumtumfun i hope I’ve not scared you but best to be prepared!

Technically our waters would suit GWs but I didn’t think there had been a confirmed sighting.

honestly, you have scared me shitless WinkGrinGrin but it is not hard to be fair ! And yes I need to be prepared you are right . I need to be prepared for it all. Swimming up the amazon, golf courses and grates in swimming pools (core fear unlocked I can hear the thrashing GW) . Oh good lord .

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Addictforanex · 10/09/2024 21:01

Maybe watch Jaws again. The production quality is so bad when seen nowadays it looks almost laughable - could be a cure!?

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 21:02

SilenceInside · 10/09/2024 20:57

The thing is, it's irrational. I know very well that a great white shark cannot survive in a chlorinated swimming pool. The science on that is pretty obvious. But, the irrational bit of my brain ignores that and comes up with nonsense like it would live long enough to thrash around and get one bite in before it expired!

say it sister. This .

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mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 21:03

Addictforanex · 10/09/2024 21:01

Maybe watch Jaws again. The production quality is so bad when seen nowadays it looks almost laughable - could be a cure!?

I go into a shivery panic even when my children hum ' duh duh '
Also what is terrifying about the film is that you don't see the shark until right at the end . It is the unseen that gives the film the horror element

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Theredjellybean · 10/09/2024 21:04

I'm the same and even got panicky in the bath.
But I have overcome it (mostly).
I had CBT...my daughters got into surfing and I was unable to go in with them, the youngest was only 6 or 7 and fearless...she would go out way to far and even that fear of her drowning wouldn't overcome my shark fear . So I had to do something.
It worked...I now live by the beach, swim most days in the sea pool and on holiday in the Mediterranean I will swim, sail and jump off boats etc.
It sometimes pops into mind and I still have to be able to see around me.
I could not swim in a murky lake or river for example

PaperSheet · 10/09/2024 21:08

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 21:03

I go into a shivery panic even when my children hum ' duh duh '
Also what is terrifying about the film is that you don't see the shark until right at the end . It is the unseen that gives the film the horror element

What's interesting about jaws is the reason you don't see much of the shark is because it didn't work most of the time. Poor Bruce (what the shark was named) didn't do well in the water. Especially because Spielberg insisted on filming at sea rather than in a studio pool/tank.
There's some really good documentaries on the filming of jaws. (I watched these to try and help overcome the shark fear jaws caused).
It hasn't really helped the actual shark fear. But I'm no longer scared of Bruce in the film!

TommyWooWoo · 10/09/2024 21:16

I'm like this, but can control it to an extent (similar age to you). I'm a bit better now I think, but if something makes me think about it, even in a swimming pool i will have to get out...
I do swim in the sea when on holiday because I like it in theory but spend the whole time jumpy and on edge and reminding myself of all the reasons there won't be a shark... And once the fear gets too much I get out v. quickly!!
For me, it's the thought of them looming out of the darkness... shudder
I did once have one swim under me while snorkeling in Asia. I have never swum so fast back to a boat in my life 😂

Viviennemary · 10/09/2024 21:19

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 13:11

Name change for this one

Embarrassed to admit but I have a terrible shark phobia

I am 45 and it of course started with watching Jaws at a very young age.

I used to be ok snorkelling and swimming in tropical seas in my twenties but for some reason my phobia has worsened with age

I can no longer swim in a pool alone (even not alone my heart races in the deep end) I panic swimming in a lake unless I can touch the bottom. I will only paddle in the Mediterranean sea and just will not go swimming or do any water activity. I won't swim in the UK sea (but not hard as lots of sewage warnings near me)

I cannot do the above as a just visualise a shark behind me as it seems very graphic and real. The logic of a shark being in a pool /lake of course is ridiculous but I cannot stop the paralysing fear.

My children have teased me by showing pictures of open mouthed great whites and my heart feels like it stops .

Anyone else? can I overcome this somehow? I don't think it impacts my life too much and of course I can live without swimming but any advice would be appreciated!

Your fear is illogical unless you swim in shark infested waters. So in your case I think hypnotherapy would help. I had a fear of ghosts for years.

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 21:43

Theredjellybean · 10/09/2024 21:04

I'm the same and even got panicky in the bath.
But I have overcome it (mostly).
I had CBT...my daughters got into surfing and I was unable to go in with them, the youngest was only 6 or 7 and fearless...she would go out way to far and even that fear of her drowning wouldn't overcome my shark fear . So I had to do something.
It worked...I now live by the beach, swim most days in the sea pool and on holiday in the Mediterranean I will swim, sail and jump off boats etc.
It sometimes pops into mind and I still have to be able to see around me.
I could not swim in a murky lake or river for example

good to know - i am in a similar position. My kids sometimes need me to get in the sea

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PenelopeTheShroudWeaver · 11/09/2024 19:12

mumtumfun · 10/09/2024 17:00

Sorry to hear this. Did you have a young formative experience about a dog coming to you? My friend is similar- an almost chemical /hardwired fear after a dog reared up when she was a toddler

Not that I recall, according to my parents I have always been terrified of dogs even as a baby. They're not scared of them, so it's not a behaviour they could have passed on to me either.
A very woo coworker maintained that I must have been killed by wolves in a past life 😂

sharkywarky · 11/09/2024 19:37

NC as what I am going to write is so specific.

I also have a phobia of sharks but a bit different to you. I don't mind pools or anything but specifically I am absolutely terrified of pictures of them. In fact I've been very tentatively scrolling in case an unkind mumsnetter posts a picture thinking they are oh so hilarious.

I remember exactly when it started too. I had this CD-ROM encyclopaedia thing as a child (mid to late 90s) and I was sat really close to the screen clicking through all the animals and then suddenly a big great white shark, mouth open, appeared on the screen and it made me jump.

Side note - people say they're not scary but why are they always pictured at that angle with their mouth wide open and teeth out? Can you imagine if every time you saw a picture of a lion it was of them snarling, mouth open? I feel like the PR team for sharks needs a good talking to. Although I suspect the "cool" factor of sharks for a lot of people IS that they're toothy and scary. And don't get me started on the weird black dead eyes. I shudder at the thought.

Anyway from then on every time I went on my encyclopaedia thing I would memorise the point the shark would come up and try and not look or squint or peek through my fingers to rush to the next. The avoidance obviously made it worse. It's a completely textbook example of a phobia developing.

Problem is it hasn't ever gone away. Even Finding Nemo makes my heart race. I can't watch the chasing scene. I sometimes take a peek when Bruce first appears with his big smile but it's embarrassingly really scary. I've never seen the lake scene in Harry Potter 4 (despite being a massive fan) because there's a shark head.

In fact I recall one science lesson being made to watch a shark show and I tried to tell the teacher my issue but he laughed at me. My friend, bless her, sat positioned in front of me so I could stare at the back of her head for 20 minutes pretending to watch.

My son has got a magazine with a bloody Megalodon or whatever in it and I absolutely hate it every time we read it and I have to pretend I'm ok but my heart is racing as we get near the page.

I've really tried to expose myself in the hope I'll get used to it but it's never seems to help.

In the moment (like the magazine) sometimes it starts to feel a little less scary but the next time I come to it, even a day later, I'm again paralysed with fear in that moment and my heart races.

The phobia is completely separate to my logical brain. Im actually really fascinated by sharks and find them really interesting. I'd love to learn about them but obviously can't google them.

Sorry for the essay. It's weirdly nice to read this thread as I've never heard of anyone like me before.

mumtumfun · 13/09/2024 10:06

Wow so many similarities. I am glad it has given you comfort.

I had exactly the same thought processes - I was tentatively squinting incase someone has posted a shark picture here.

I am the same with Bruce too (tbf he is terrifying - so big...). I also get palpitations when I see one of my son's books with a shark in, and Instagram sometimes makes my heart stop as something might pop up.

I cant understand how people can NOT find it terrifying. The dead eyes and the teeth! The breaching from water and the sheer girth of the thing.

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Flashcardsagain · 13/09/2024 10:08

They only bite if you touch their private parts

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