AIBU Shocked by DP rage outburst

[Debs2024]

I have been with my soulmate for 3.5 years. He is the calm to my storm. We don’t row just laugh and enjoy being together 24/7 we work as a live in couple together. We have been through a hard year my Mum died and I was hospitalised with a brain injury after my brother attacked me. Thanks to my mothers inheritance we r moving to Spain but it has been a long and frustrating process due to my solicitors incompetency and red tape to move to Spain. Today another problem occurred with the move and he lost it shouted at me to contact solicitor went mad because I needed more photos for visa he didn’t deem necessary and drove like a maniac yelled at a driver and if it had escalated said he would have punched him! All quiet now but I am shaken. He has no income all the money is mine Still in shock!

Run. As pp have said, get out now. He has shown his true colours and it is fortunate that it has happened now and not after the move.

There’s no such thing as a soulmate, that’s fantasy. If there were, he wouldn’t behave like this. In no circumstances move home and country with this freeloader. Thank your lucky stars that your solicitor has delayed the move and grab this opportunity to escape with both hands

The way you talk about him it’s more like you’re 6 months into this in the rose tinted glasses stage than 3.5 years 😳 He’s showing you what he’s really like here, this is a glimpse of the future. He doesn’t sound very nice at all. Get those rose tinted glasses off.

And if your 'soul mate' is a freeloading dirtbag cocklodger, then that says to me your soul mate radar is waaaayyy off. With a 'soul mate' like him, you won't ever need an enemy in life. Raise your standards, and get some self respect. That aint a 'soul mate', that's a turd!

If it's the first time he's lost his temper in 3.5 years that's not bad. Everyone gets angry and looses their temper sometimes. Moving abroad is stressful enough without everything else that has happened.
Are you working as a live in couple or not? If you are why does he have no money?

This is a preview to when he has you isolated in Spain with no support network. It will only escalate. Don't do it.

Fuck that. I wouldn't leave the country and be isolated with him. Has he ever flipped the lid before?

Thank heavens you found this out today

Well he isn't your soul mate for a start as there is no such thing.

He's shown you who he is. Run.

This thread is interesting. On a thread yesterday everyone was saying a guy who shouted at kids (who were not his own) wasn't a monster or a threat to his kids and probably had just had a bad day. Everyone here seems to think this guy shouts once and he's the devil so she needs to leave him. I don't have anything worthwhile to add, just musing. I wonder if it's the same users