TW - miscarriage. Looking for coping mechanisms

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I’m a regular poster on the conception boards, but thought I might get some more responses posting here, from people who perhaps have experienced miscarriage in the past.

I have been TTC for 14 months now, with 2 miscarriages in that time. My most recent one was a partial molar pregnancy so has taken a little while to get over.

I am struggling - my period is on its way today & I just feel low. I’m looking for any suggestions on how to keep distracted, as TTC and loss is taking over my life & thoughts every day. Feel like the last year I have been existing instead of living

Honestly, when I had my miscarriage (admittedly I only had one), I booked myself a solo holiday abroad and went and ate and drank and did things I enjoyed and had a spa day and did anything I could to focus on enjoying life. We had another (family) holiday a few weeks later and I did the same, just focused on traveling and having fun. My son was conceived on that trip. He’s 6 now. It was the letting go and enjoying life that helped. It was a very drawn out miscarriage (6 weeks and I ended up needing an operation in the end). The traveling was the reset I think I needed psychologically.

@mindutopia thank you, I do actually have a holiday coming up in a couple of weeks. AF started today which I was really disheartened about, so the holiday has probably worked out at the right time to try & reset.
I usually struggle in the winter months with my mood, so going to try find myself something to do to keep busy