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Is it me in the wrong or him is he gaslighting me?

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LoopyLoz2290 · 07/09/2024 19:18

Me and my boyfriend have been abit distant lately, he still lives at home with his mum he is 29 and she treats him like a child , she tells him if he doesn’t do this that will happen for instance.. u beat be back by 9 or ur on street.. couple days ago I had big argument with his mum about her barging in his room we was asleep and she came in waking him up ( I was half naked yet he didn’t say anything! ) she comes in looking for laundry I don’t agree with it she should not do this he has me ? They both was whispering downstairs and I said why whisper it’s rude and he had a go at me saying if she isn’t comfortable telling “everyone” her business then he isn’t gunna make her feel like it . Then we had a argument and I found a girls hair bobble in his room with hair on ( not my hair colour ) and he twists everything onto me starts accusing me of been unfaithful and accusing me of been sly just because iv caught him out I no that but he won’t own his stuff !! I have my own house iv just recently moved into and I’m in middle of decorating ect… I don’t get a lot of money and if I stay with him his mum expects 60-80 pound off me every 2 weeks which I only get 340 pound to start with . Because I pay my bills and prioritise my house he says I’m selfish because I’m not spending my money with him ! When we argue he leaves me to struggle he never puts. Obey into my house or anything to do with me he lets his mum control his money also !! I have walked out and moved back home now. If he loved me he wouldn’t watch me leave with my bags and struggle would he? And if he did love me why is he not helping me in my house and being a proper man providing for me and looking after me ? I’m stuck I don’t no what to think anymore !

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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/09/2024 22:00

LoopyLoz2290 · 09/09/2024 21:45

Well I y should he not move in with me ? We have been together nearly 1 year now he’s nearly 30 year old so why would he not want to settle down with his girlfriend

Because hunny he's just not that into you.
How old are you?
Doesn't sound like this relationship has legs tbh. If you are under 30 then you are young, just sack him off, enjoy your lovely home and focus on you for a bit.
I take it you don't have any children?

Newsenmum · 09/09/2024 22:01

He needs to come and stay with you. Put your foot down. But also this relationship has red flags all over it.

BillieJ · 09/09/2024 22:07

Oh, you have only been together a year. It seems he is OK living at home and seeing you on a regular basis. You want different things from a relationship.

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TheShellBeach · 09/09/2024 22:08

Lord above, why would you want this cheating idiot in your life anyway?

He's obviously sleeping with other women, he can't even do his own washing and he won't help you with your decorating. Even your last boyfriend was better than that.

Why did you split up with your last boyfriend?

Do you work? It seems a bit odd, in this day and age, that you consider your role is looking after a house while your bloke goes out to work.

We've moved on from the 1950s now.

TheShellBeach · 09/09/2024 22:11

.........she comes in looking for laundry. I don’t agree with it - she should not do this, he has me..........

You do not exist in life merely to do men's washing for them.

Why can't he do his own washing?

Mrsttcno1 · 10/09/2024 06:50

LoopyLoz2290 · 09/09/2024 21:45

Well I y should he not move in with me ? We have been together nearly 1 year now he’s nearly 30 year old so why would he not want to settle down with his girlfriend

Because he is clearly happy where he is! And honestly 11 months is nothing, I wouldn’t be moving in after 11 months and you shouldn’t want him to- you have a home that is just yours, that is a good thing.

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