Backstory; I’ve always had weight issues. I had a bit of a health issue in April and I finally decided to do something about it, I’ve lost quite a bit since then. I’m calorie counting so I’ll eat whatever as long as it’s within my daily allowance, it’s working and I’m pleased!
Anyway, my birthday is next week. Chatting with DH I mentioned my aunt had asked if I would like something other than chocolates this year (her go-to present for most of us), I said yes and suggested a small candle I’d seen. He immediately said ‘well I’ve bought you some! So you’re not going to eat them?’ I said I was surprised as obviously he knows I’m trying to avoid sweet treats especially. He got defensive and told me he’d just throw them in the bin then and I was being ungrateful.
I don’t think I am though? I spoke to him later and said it felt a bit like if I’d decided to stop drinking and he bought me a bottle of booze. He said it wasn’t the same and that was just a dramatic thing to say. It feels like he doesn’t understand.
I’d love some outside views if possible please.