Long distance relationship

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I've been in a relationship for 5 months with a man who lives 60 miles away. He was coming to see me on his 4 days off then going to work for other 4 everything was going great but then he he starting moaning about me being on my phone and messaging my mum and friends he said I should want to spend time with him not my phone he tells me I need to cut ties with my mum because she no good for me and using me and he's always slagging my mum off and saying I'm messaging other men. he said he cant move near me because there isn't jobs and it's crap pay to where he his and he wants me to move near him or we can't have a relationship. My kids are settled here and are happy in school and I'm my mums carer I honestly don't know what to do. I'm not saying I wouldn't move for a relationship it just seems a bit quick and it's not just me it's my kids aswell.

Hey,

I have also been in a long distance relationship, except mine was living in England while my partner lived in the US, we managed to do this successfully and now we live together with a child. There was alot of bumps and obstacles about one of us moving, being unhappy with certain things, thats just normal but you also have to ask yourself is this person someone i can see this going the distance with? Someone who has asked you to cut ties with your mother, someone who you should be able to confide in if you felt homesick, regretted moving etc. I personally think thats not a good start.

He should t want to change you. He sounds controlling. Rethink your relationship!

Sounds like a controlling arse. Dump him, but if you can't do that call his bluff and say you're not moving

Move on. He's only going to get worse.

Tbf 60 miles isn't long distance. And regardless of distance he's a controlling arse. I'm in a long distance 7 hour drive and we see eachother loads and there's no control on either side or major conflict. This isn't the one for you, throw him back.

Narcissistic tendencies! Be aware! Be very aware! Nothing better will follow. If someone wants you for you they will accept you, your children, your family, and all that goes with it. Head for the hills, my dear, please!

@ForCheekyMauveFox I'm in a similar situation to this in that I'm pregnant and partner lives in the US, I am looking at options of moving but very unsure about it. Were you the one that moved? I am very worried about culture shock especially gun culture. Please PM me if youd be happy to share more about your experience

Lots of red flags there OP, I'd be cutting my losses I think. Sorry.

Sorry just seen this is an old thread, hope things worked out okay for you.