Bigger (4 Year+) Age Gap between kids

[LivinLaVidaMama]

I have a newly turned 3 year old daughter and up until now I've been resolute that we are one and done. However now I'm wavering and have started to think I'd like a second. Most of DDs nursery pals are already siblings or about to become so we are looking at a bigger age gap than the 'norm'.

We could start trying next month but realistically (DH works away sometimes and will be for most of October and November) we would be TTC from December onwards, so 4 years would be the absolute minimum gap, likely longer (took 7mo with Dd).

Is this too big for siblings to be close and feel like they are growing up together?

I have 2 (now adult) children 5 years apart. To be honest they rubbed along with no real problems till youngest was able to to go the pub! After that they became more matey. Big bro was really supportive when youngest went through his first breakup.

I've got 4 year age gap - DD is 16 months and DS is 5. It's great! Wouldn't do it any other way. They're thick as thieves and play together all the time. Plus, never had both in nappies, never had both in full time childcare, had a nice break to fully recover from a terrible pregnancy.

Loads of DS's classmates have similar ages siblings, there are even a few with a 5 year age gap, I don't think it's that rare.

My DD is 4.5 years older than me. We played together until I was about 5 or 6. From then onwards she was pretty awful to me (I was probably annoying) and we did not get on at all and fought a lot (often visciously). She left home at 17ish, at which point we became closer and got closer the older we got. We lived together in my 20s. She was my maid of honour. We are really close now, despite living very far away from each other.

Conversely, DH and his sister are 2.5 years apart. Didn't fight much as kids. I don't think they engaged much with each other at all. As adults they aren't close at all and I think don't feel a strong connection to each other.

Go figure...

Glad to hear the positive experiences.

Interestingly my sister and I are the magic 2.5 years apart, as well as being the same sex, and have never been close.

I have a 22 year old son, a 16 year old daughter and a 7 year old daughter and they are all incredibly close despite the age gaps. They still find a way to argue ALL the time. Even my son and my 7 year old!!

I have a 22 year old son, a 16 year old daughter and a 7 year old daughter and they are all incredibly close despite the age gaps. They still find a way to argue ALL the time. Even my son and my 7 year old!!

I wouldn't worry.