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Would you leave your 2 year old for 5 nights

37 replies

Bbqnights · 05/09/2024 15:17

To go on holiday with a friend.

DS will be with my DH, his dad, who is more than capable of looking after him. But I'm worried he'll wonder why I'm not around and if I'm coming back.

Pregnant with baby no2 so feel like this is my last chance for a child free holiday for years!

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welshweasel · 05/09/2024 15:20

Absolutely! Go and don't feel guilty.

cerebuswannabe · 05/09/2024 15:20

Absolutely have a fab time:

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Bbqnights · 05/09/2024 15:22

I've only ever left him for one night before (mainly due to lack of opportunity rather than anything else) so not sure if I'm being over the top in worrying!

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HippyKayYay · 05/09/2024 15:25

Go. He’ll be fine. You’ll both miss him terribly and have a great time.

LolaJ87 · 05/09/2024 15:37

Definitely, go!

Chocoholicnightmare · 05/09/2024 15:39

Absolutely go! Would his dad do the same? Of course he would!

DappledOliveGroves · 05/09/2024 15:46

Yes and I have. I left DD (aged 2) with her father earlier this year whilst I went to New York for five nights. I had a fabulous time, she was absolutely fine.

coxesorangepippin · 05/09/2024 15:47

Probably not

DaisyChain505 · 05/09/2024 15:50

I thought the thread was going to say that you and your partner would both be leaving your child to go away and my answer would have been that it all depends on the individual child, how close they are to the person you were leaving them with etc.

But the fact that your child will be staying with one of their parents makes this a non issue. Your partner is as much a parent to your child as you are.

Go on the holiday. It’s good for you to remember that you are your own individual person and not just someone’s mum.

pitterpatterrain · 05/09/2024 15:50

Yes, over thinking this …

Many people would do this for work, let alone something actually fun !

have a good time

Lottie6712 · 05/09/2024 15:52

I left my DD at 2.5 with my sister for a week, so my husband and I could go on holiday. Best holiday ever! My sister and DD had a blast and all was fine when we returned. If you want to go on holiday, you should go! Make the most out of having a capable husband :)

Ozanj · 05/09/2024 15:54

Of course it’s fine to leave with him with his dad but I’d personally also want a holiday with my family before the new baby

Peonies12 · 05/09/2024 16:09

Of course, he's with his other parent. I wouldn't even think twice. the fact you have to point out the other parent is capable of looking after their own child - I despair of our society's low expectations of dads sometimes.

lololulu · 05/09/2024 16:11

I wouldn't and mine are teens but if you have the money and he's with his dad you should go.

stealthninjamum · 05/09/2024 16:11

No I wouldn’t, a two year old wouldn’t understand why you were gone.

Primadonner · 05/09/2024 16:13

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KimKardashiansLostEarring · 05/09/2024 16:14

Yes, I did just that in June :)

FirstTimeHomeowner · 05/09/2024 16:14

Go go go! I travelled lots for work and a couple of short breaks when DS was that age and he adjusted to it well. I'd talk to him on the run up (what it will be like on the plane, what present I should buy him, what it will be like the day I come home) and take lots of pictures and a FaceTime or so per day.
He's now super confident if I have to go away, knowing I'll be back soon and he can still chat to me when he wants to.

elm26 · 05/09/2024 16:16

I 100% would, my DD is 15 months and her Dad is amazing so I'd have no worries leaving her for 5 days. I would miss her so much though! But like you said, it's a chance you probably won't get again until your kids are grown up! X

GoneIsAnotherSummersDay · 05/09/2024 16:17

I left DD at just turned 3 and went on holiday for 5 nights. She had a lovely time staying with my Aunt and I had a brilliant time having a break from parenting. Go for it!

SouthLondonMum22 · 05/09/2024 16:17

Without hesitation.

I’ll be leaving my 2 year old and twin 1 year olds next year for a week to go on holiday. Can’t wait.

Happyinarcon · 05/09/2024 16:24

No. I didn’t leave my child until they were old enough to understand where I was going and for how long. I didn’t want them to think mum could randomly vanish

overwork · 05/09/2024 16:29

In flash. In fact can I come?

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Bbqnights · 05/09/2024 16:34

Happyinarcon · 05/09/2024 16:24

No. I didn’t leave my child until they were old enough to understand where I was going and for how long. I didn’t want them to think mum could randomly vanish

This is what concerns me

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Starlight1979 · 05/09/2024 16:42

Happyinarcon · 05/09/2024 16:24

No. I didn’t leave my child until they were old enough to understand where I was going and for how long. I didn’t want them to think mum could randomly vanish

🙄OP, please don't pick out just the responses that confirm your doubts. Look at the majority.

Your child will absolutely NOT be sat there thinking that you've abandoned them for 5 nights 😂