This is prompted by a trip to the village Post Office. The man who owns it is generally considered friendly and makes an effort to be part of the village and markets itself as being there for the village. People sing their praises (him and his wife). He makes me uncomfortable. He has been friendly by giving me sweets for free before (just once and I assumed to get me to come back) and my daughter when I first took her in. He suggested my husband and I go out for dinner with him and his wife once and I sort of said loosely that it sounds good but not mentioned again. I have his number as he gave it to me once I can't remember why but wouldn't be surprised if he was just being helpful or friendly.
He "jokes" with me when I go in. If I ask to send a parcel he'll say "I don't know, can you?" or "no" or just won't answer. Tbh I'd weeks he did something similar and it makes me not want to go in!
It reminded me of someone at work who also makes me uncomfortable by "joking". This person is very senior and often makes comments. Example I was sitting alone having lunch and he said "Why aren't you sitting with them? Don't they like you?" I don't know what to say. other times he's asked questions that I don't know how to answer. I am ND and so it's possibly I'm misinterpreting something or just not responding in the lighthearted way it is intended.