To feel lonely

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It's always night time that makes me feel alone. I reflect a lot and I just feel sad and anxious. I'm trying to just live my life doing the best I can for my kids and stay strong but I feel I just need a big hug.
I know I have so much to look forward to I just feel something is missing. Maybe I miss my abusive ex as stupid as that sounds. I'd never ever ever contemplate getting back together but maybe I'm mourning the loss of our relationship. Who knows. Just needed to rant

Sending virtual hugs. I can't offer any advice but just know you're not alone. Night times are hard but you are doing your best for your DC and it must be difficult to be alone when even a bad relationship feels better than no relationship. You can do this. One day at a time . One night at a time. Stay strong and brave. This too shall pass .

Sending you a big virtual hug. I really felt for you reading your post. I always think that things can seem overwhelming at nighttime but less so during the day. Probably the time to think and ruminate. I'm sorry I don't have any practical solutions but I just wanted to show that you're not alone on here

Thanks so much. I appreciate it. Early nights are how I avoid the feels but tonight I wanted me time but turned out it was just me say overthinking feeling alone again. While I am so glad to be away from that horrible thing called a man it is hard sometimes to be alone. I just them remember who I'm doing it for and why I am doing it for them and all makes sense x

i agree it can be lonely when the kids are in bed or doing their own thing and you’re on your own night after night. I’m not much of a TV watcher and I really miss having company in the evenings. I’ve tried dating but it’s very hard work and a bit soul destroying.

I agree here. Dating is soul destroying. It's either guys with no connection or those who just want sex don't you think? I don't date physical nor have I been a big dater, however I did tinder and spoke to men. But in all honesty I am put off men for a good while now.

Solidarity OP. I'm in a similar situation. Fine when I'm busy during the day, but really start to miss my ex in the evenings, even though I know that leaving him was the right thing to do.

Can you lose yourself in a good Netflix series? I just finished One Day which was really good.

It can help to build as much physical excercise into your day as you can. Try and get yourself good and tired so that when you settle down your body is ready to relax and youre content with quiet time with TV/book/MN. The night blues and the racing thoughts are partly adrenalin with nowhere to go, so if you've worked some of it off it helps.

I still like to think there is someone out there for me but yes the dating part is painful. Either men making minimal effort to chat so you can’t get any sense if you want to meet them, or over eager ones who want to meet after exchanging four messages. Very hard to find a connection.