At what point in dating would you mention this?

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Just dipping my toes back in after 7 years single. During that time I've come to the conclusion that I'm much, much happier living on my own and never again want to share my space with anyone.

However, I appreciate most people looking for a long term relationship do so with the idea that eventually you set up home together.

It's not something to really mention on a first date 'thanks for the drink, I'm not going to live with you', but I also don't want to lead someone on for an extended period of time if they gave different expectations.

Early/mid 40s with no kids if that makes a difference :)

I'd probably only mention it when we'd had a handful of dates and if I could see it was heading towards an exclusive relationship. I also don't think I'd be hammering the point as a definite but rather as a "I can't see myself living with somebody again" incase a different relationship changed my perspective.

This

Waaay down the line.

Absolutely this.

You don't see yourself - right now.

But you don't know how you'll feel at any given time so go with it. Enjoy dating and just enjoy the company.

You never know what the future holds and you may be lucky enough to find someone who actually feels the same way and so can have the perfect LT relationship!

I wish I was you OP. I know I'm not cut out to live with anyone except my cat. If I ever find myself single again for any reason I'll just get another cat.

I think it would be reasonable to say early on "I don't see myself Co-habiting with anyone full time for the foreseeable future" I don't think it's that unusual age 40+

I would mention it casually quite early on. Along the lines of ‘gosh I really enjoy living alone. I think I might struggle to live with someone again.’ Maybe even tack on a ‘what are your thoughts?’ To the end of it. Or even just leave it as a casual comment without the invitation to comment at the end

I guess at some point at the beginning you will discuss what you are looking for in a partner (and things like distance relationship, responsibilities etc) this would be a good moment imo to say that you are looking for a partner to spend time with rather then to live together with at least at this point.

It is just me and the cat(s) !

I'm not overly sure still about dating again but thought I'd give it a go! I absolutely do not want to live with anyone though, and that won't change no matter what. I'm too comfortable in my life now to consider disturbing it.

Might just get another cat....

I mention it at the messaging stage if it comes up but definitely within the first couple of dates. I don't like wasting my time or anyone else's.

To be honest, if you're not that sure about dating anyway, just mention it whenever you like. If you're not fussed whether something is going to work out one way or the other, what have you got to lose?

Just saying...