I'm hoping this isn't as weird or as rare as I think it may be. I would have also liked to post on a Relationships board but couldn't find on?? NC as other posts may have been outing.
This could be TMI, I apologise but don't know how else or where else I can explain. Backstory/ explanation between asteriks can be skipped for TLDR - I'm just going to be frank
I've been with DH for 17 years. He has a much higher sex drive which has caused problems over the years as these things do. I'm starting to realise that my cycle must really affect things, sometimes I want hard and fast quickies and other days that's too much and I grin and bear it. Sometimes we start slow and get quicker with me often asking for faster/harder so it's not a DH issue of being too rough (he can be more needy for romance and refers to wanting to 'make love' and we joke that he is the woman in the relationship). He is actually a very giving lover and will do anything I want or need.
Anyway, often when we have sex, it will feel great for a few mins then I think I 'come' and I get wet and looser. From then I start to get a bit bored! I will usually grab a vibrator at this point but the intercourse doesn't do much for me anymore and when kids are about etc I cant use vibrator due to noise. We've discussed this recently and DH is very understanding and we are taking things slower so I last longer but it's took me a long time to realise I must have the equivalent of premature ejaculation! Either that or maybe DH is losing his erection a little and that's what's doing it?? I've always wondered why I have such a low sex drive and I've realised that if it felt like it does for those first few minutes the whole way through then I probably would want that all of the time!!
Can anyone relate and have you found anything to make it feel good for longer?
I'm taking Elle Sera in the hopes to increase my sex drive. I wonder if DH should try a viagra type pill to see if its him needing to be firmer too?