If you husband said he dislikes something you are wearing ( lighthearted post )

[HappyMe6]

Having conversation with some friends the subject came up as one said her husband gets really annoyed if she doesn’t change out of an outfit he doesn’t like. Me being me just laughed and actually thought she was joking! She was deadly serious it got me thinking how many people would actually change their clothes if husband or partner didn’t like! I myself wouldn’t lol

Keep an eye on your friend. She may need your help.

Honestly My husband would rarely have an adverse opinion so I’d probably take heed and change!

I would wear it every day for a month

Your friend needs to stand up for herself and wear what she likes, not what anyone else likes!

I’d wear it more. No one tries to tell me what to wear.

Your friend needs help.

I don't think my husband would negatively remark on my appearance/outfit - he hasn't in 20 years! He might give a preference if I presented multiple options, but that would be at my initiation.

I wouldn't put up with my dh sulking if he didn't like what I was wearing! He can have an opinion, but the choice would be mine. I feel sad for your friend that her husband is like that and would worry what else he tried to control in her life...

I was thinking a few months ago that I really should get my hair cut, but then my DH commented that my hair was getting far too long and I really needed to cut it. It remains uncut to this day even though it really needs it

Gosh your poor friend! That will make it worse.

It’s like water off a ducks back if anyone says they don’t like my outfit! I just shrug & say “well I do”. No one would ever get me to change my outfit.

I don't think dh had ever said he doesn't like something I'm wearing, sometimes if I'm indecisive I'm say do you prefer this or this and after years of I don't mind whichever you prefer saves me replying if I knew I wouldn't be asking, he now gives me a preference, but if I went with the other option he wouldn't bat an eye.
I did comment recently on a very bright coloured pair of trousers he bought and he did don't you like them and I said no not really. He still wears them and that's what he should do.

Are there other red flags in your friend's relationship? I was surprised recently on a play date when one of the mums said oh I'd better go (even though it was an activity with a paid time slot and still an hour left) , or he (husband) will be cross I haven't started dinner. A couple of us laughed as he'd been home alone all day and she'd been with their two children, but it became clear quickly that she wasn't and she seemed surprised when we said our husbands wouldn't be asking when their dinner was on the table and then DH text and said do you want me to stick something on for dinner what time roughly will you be home.

My DH will say if he likes something on me or not - I wear it regardless. If you like it and it makes you feel nice - wear it

I went out with a guy like this. Like a pp said, I'd wear it for a month. DH however would never be critical of what I wear. I could wear a bin bag with duct tape trim and he'd still think I looked amazing.

I don't think DH has ever commented negatively on any of my clothing....and I have some pretty "out there" clothes!

Although he does have a pair of shoes that I absolutely loathe and I made a comment about them once along the lines of "please god don't wear those out". Quite rightly he told me that he wouldn't ever tell me what I couldn't wear and proceeded to wear them out and about. He was absolutely correct so I've kept my mouth shut since.

I would keep an eye on your friend. I have a friend with an arsehole of a DH and she'll often say things like "I can't be too late/I can't go home tipsy or DH will be cross." She knows my thoughts on the matter, that DH would never dictate to me and that I'm there for her whenever she wants to talk. I think that's all you can do.

Your friend may well be testing the water to see if you're a safe person to disclose abuse to. I would check in with her and tell her you're always there if she wants to talk more about her relationship.

I'd shrug and say 'oh well I like it, and it's really comfortable.'

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I told my DH I didn't like the jacket he wore a lot. Hopefully I said it tactfully but think probably not! He be er sure it again.
I'd probably change or not wear it again, my husband had good taste in clothes (bar that one jacket).

To the people that said to keep eye on my friend he’s not really a controller in other ways. But I can totally understand what you all mean. And yes she’s very good friend whom I’ve known for over 20 years, we’ve always told each other we are always there for each other always have each others backs, he’s just quite weird on the fact he expects her not to wear something he doesn’t like. Which looking outside in does seem to have controlling vibes, if he wears something she doesn’t like he will go and change.these are a couple in 50 plus so not youngsters

Seems odd and it's up to her what she wears ofc - he has a right to his opinion but she's not dressing to make him happy! eye roll sounds controlling to me too...