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Do straight women ever wonder if they are bi?

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SummerSunrise · 31/08/2024 19:39

Or did you always know you’re straight with no questioning at all?

Sometimes I wonder but I have ASD and I really struggle with what is within the realm of ‘normal’ behaviour. I don’t mean that being bi is not normal, but rather, yes it’s normal to wonder as a straight woman, it doesn’t mean you’re bi. Or no, it’s not normal to wonder unless you are in fact bi.

I’ve been asked if I’m bi several times in my life, to which I always respond the same…surprise, confusion, and ‘No of course not, I’m straight’. I wonder if they see something I am not, or is this again a normal experience to be asked if you are bi when you are straight?

Sorry if these questions are really dumb, I genuinely don’t feel like I know myself that well at all, especially after ASD discovery and learning that in many cases, what I have thought of as ‘normal’ really isn’t.

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Branleuse · 01/09/2024 11:42

I think that womens sexuality has been objectified so much and attractive women amd girls are marketed as consumables that it must be hard to untangle for some women.
Personally, I know im bisexual in that I find men and women sexually attractive and interesting.
I think bisexual women often just end up with men because its more common and easier to find, and then just remain monogamous, but may always wonder

Lara46 · 25/10/2024 17:27

SummerSunrise · 01/09/2024 11:15

You brought up another question I was going to ask but thought maybe I shouldn’t - is it common for straight women to have been hit on by women? I have been hit on by women many times, I wondered if I give off a sort of ‘vibe’ or if this is just a common thing that happens regardless. But it’s probably due to ASD in the ways you mentioned. However in my case, I did find many of them attractive but was firmly in my ‘no I’m 100% straight so queue an awkward exit’ rigidity (not applying this to you btw!). Actually it made me feel a bit panicky, which was likely due to my upbringing rearing its ugly head.

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Sorry to jump on this thread a couple of months after it seems to have last been posted on but it's resonated with me a bit. Im also wondering if I'm bi. I've been married for 15 years and have always kind of wondered but convinced myself I was straight...but my feelings for women seem to have got stronger recently.

I do get hit on by women still, I'm mid forties but I'd say quite attractive and feminine and get hit on by men a lot too (I work in a bar though so it could just be that they've all got beer goggles on haha). Not an ASD thing for me because I'm not on the spectrum, but I also wonder if I give out a "vibe"....

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