Help knots in hair

[KarlyKt]

One of my daughters has hair that is extremely knotty.

Basically she gets one teeny knot and it snowballs and ends up just a quarter of her hair tangled!

We wash and condition every other day ( adult conditioner)

We brush which is rather traumatic for her due to sensory issues.

She has clumps of cradle cap type stuff on her scalp. I periodically pick it out but it never fully clears up.

I use tangle spray

I even plait it at night and tried a silk pillow.

A person who is close to us said that this was a sign of neglect and I'm deeply upset that people think that.

I've just had it cut.

Any other tips?

Sensory issues? Does she spend a lot of time in a hoodie or up against a chair? My one sons hair is awful for this texture wise it just knots up in a heartbeat

Try head jog brush
Use milkshake integrity intensive hair mask as conditioner after every wash
Regular trims

These all help but I’m following for advice too.

You aren't supposed to be able to run your fingers through very curly hair- it's impossible. Curly hairs main enemy is dryness so keep it moisturised and use a light oil to seal moisture in if you aren't already. As for combing you can comb it with an wide tooth comb in the bath or shower when it's wet and has conditioner in it but I usually finger detangle mine (it takes time but there's less breakage) and only comb it once every week when I wash. I wouldn't wash curly hair more than once a week as this makes it dryer. I have also found that putting hair up in a high pineapple keeps it less tangled than braids... good luck... curly hair is really difficult to get right.

Whoever said it is a sign of neglect is a tosser. Its a form of dermitis and your chemist will be able to help.
Try rubbing in some nice smelling hair oil after towel drying for the knots.

Hi,

When my DS had cradle cap the health visitor said to rub moisturiser into it and that would soften it. I did that and then it all came off easily.

Sorry it sounds as though you have a really hard problem there. I had this kind of very tangly hair as a child and the sensory problems about brushing. I just looked like a bird's nest for years. It wasn't great really. I had forgotten until I read this.

I know short hair is not the thing for little girls, but would it save trouble to have it short just for a while?

Sending hugs.

Her hair is more wavy but it's just a weird texture that clumps together. Quite dry and there's lots of it. The scalp issues do not help.

She hates me brushing it. Bedtime is usually awful (she's being assessed for autism)

She had hair done beautifully this morning but she rolls around on sofa during tantrums and it gets static and rubs out of the pony tail etc.

Tonight I caught her older brother putting rice in her hair at dinner, thought it was funny. This doesn't help.

Shes only young, primary age.

It's like I can't brush it right to the scalp. It's so weird.

I'm gutted that others might view this as neglect.

I do have some mental health issues that have flared up but have recently seen dr and got a plan so I'm feeling pretty good.

And now I'm sitting here worrying about her hair.

My DD had thick hair that constantly knotted no matter what I did. My sister is a hairdresser and recommended this brush to me. I cannot praise it enough! Such a simple solution to a problem that plagued me for years, the hours spent after washing it having to go section by section and detangle it. Now I just wash and condition DD's hair (conditioner only on the ends and then you could try a wide tooth comb at that stage but we don't need to do that step now) and then spray a little argan oil spray on it and then use this brush. No need to even section it anymore unless there's a big clump.

Also, now that DD knows it's not as knotty, she is happy to brush it herself though the day if she's been active/messing about and knows her hair is messy.

Sorry I can't help with the cradle cap issue but a chemist or hairdresser will!

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Sounds like my texture.
Try coating it in conditioner while soaking wet (in the shower) and brushing the conditioner through, right up to the scalp, with a tangle teaser or similar hard plastic brush. Brush through with a Bounce Curl Brush or similar while still wet - the combination of teeth and bristles help smooth the hair into waves. Then have her sleep with it up in a loose top knot so it doesn't get rubbed around overnight.