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Not agreed on third baby

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DillyDallySal · 30/08/2024 18:51

Looking to see if anyone is in a similar situation and can help me make sense of my thoughts on this.

Essentially, my husband wants a third baby and I don’t. That’s the issue. We have two healthy, wonderful children mid-primary age and we had them in our mid-20s. I’m now early 30s (he’s late 30s) and he wants another. I had healthy, easy pregnancies and alright births (although not easy of course, just not with other complications).

honestly, I can’t see what another child would add to our family at this point and can only see the potential for financial, health issues and any other drama involved with parenting spiralling. He says he was emotionally immature the first time around and wants to enjoy fatherhood from the first day the way he does now, all over again.

He says he won’t leave over it but I love him a nd don’t want him to have regrets. This could build resentment in the future.

Financially, we’re doing well now and I’ve spent the years post babies building my career. I have no wish to go back to that now. He’s willing to take the leave from work and apparently “do everything”.

any words of advice?

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SophiaJ8 · 30/08/2024 18:54

If one wants a child and one doesn’t, the person who doesn’t want one trumps.

IMO

Mrsttcno1 · 30/08/2024 18:57

SophiaJ8 · 30/08/2024 18:54

If one wants a child and one doesn’t, the person who doesn’t want one trumps.

IMO

I agree with this.

It’s a lot more straightforward to accept not having a third child, than it is to go through pregnancy, birth, and then support another person 18+ years when you didn’t want to.

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