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I need to tell ds social worker

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Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 11:01

Ds is 17. He's been through alot mentally emotionally etc. For approximately 6 ish weeks or so he's been in supported accommodation. It's not heavily supported.

So ds has been hanging about with a 27 year old girl who is an ex friend of my adult dd . The friend has caused saot of problems with our family. I think because of ds age and vunerbility it worked with him. Ds became very distant with me stopped coming over etc .

I spoke to ds social worker because I was worried about him because of the person he's hanging out with. Abd that he's not in contact with us so was worried about bus safety etc . So sw saw him more regularly.

Anyway ds and this 27 year old has fell out.
In a nut shell ds wanted to go to the pub to play pool . The 27 year old could not go because she could not get childcare. Ds went on his own and she started sending ds loads of threats so he blocked her and since then he's started coming home again and he's been staying over quite a bit and spending general time here. He's also made it up with adult dd . ( they fell out because of the 27 year old)

So the main issue is. I have found out that the 27 year old takes drugs ( coke) I don't know about other stuff. And she apprently went on and on at ds to go and get her some from a dealer and ds did because she would not leave ds alone.

So I'm wanting to tell his social worker about this. But im worried she will then speak to him . Ds will get angry and upset and it will send him straight back to this 27 year old.

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username44416 · 30/08/2024 11:19

You've posted a lot about this before OP, I'm sorry it's still ongoing. He's 17 and obviously needs to be protected from this woman. I believe she also harassed you and your daughter.

Did you look into any legal remedies to keep her away? I would tell his social worker that she is pressuring him to buy drugs. I would also speak to the police and keep building a case against her to keep her away from the family.

Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 11:26

username44416 · 30/08/2024 11:19

You've posted a lot about this before OP, I'm sorry it's still ongoing. He's 17 and obviously needs to be protected from this woman. I believe she also harassed you and your daughter.

Did you look into any legal remedies to keep her away? I would tell his social worker that she is pressuring him to buy drugs. I would also speak to the police and keep building a case against her to keep her away from the family.

Legally there's nothing I can do.

I'm thinking should I ask the social worker she found out another way .and not through me. My concern is he will get really upset with me and then stop contact and go back to this person.

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username44416 · 30/08/2024 11:29

Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 11:26

Legally there's nothing I can do.

I'm thinking should I ask the social worker she found out another way .and not through me. My concern is he will get really upset with me and then stop contact and go back to this person.

OP it sounds like he's fed up with her and he's blocked her so perhaps sit on your hands for the time being and see how it goes.

Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 11:38

username44416 · 30/08/2024 11:29

OP it sounds like he's fed up with her and he's blocked her so perhaps sit on your hands for the time being and see how it goes.

She's done things in the past and she says sorry and he talks to get again. I made a comment and said you be friends again when she's says sorry . And you both be up the pub again and he laughed and said as long as she's buying . And he still talks about her with a sort of foundness.

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Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 13:35

My adult ds is a policeman so I spoke to him. He said I need to report it as it can be under child exploitation. So I'm going to talk to his social worker. And work out how to word things for the police.

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Scentedjasmin · 30/08/2024 13:42

Well you definitely need to report her to Social services of she has kids. Report her and worry about what your son thinks of you later. Protecting him and her children is more importance right now.

Jumpinghoopsandloops · 30/08/2024 13:47

Scentedjasmin · 30/08/2024 13:42

Well you definitely need to report her to Social services of she has kids. Report her and worry about what your son thinks of you later. Protecting him and her children is more importance right now.

Yeah I definitely will

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Jumpinghoopsandloops · 01/09/2024 08:54

Ds Social worker never called me back on Friday. I have been thinking ds will be really upset if I tell the Social worker. And he might get distant with us again possibly go back to this person.

I'm wondering if the Social worker would be able to just say she's looked up the records about this person and she's not good to be around rather than saying I told her because I don't want it to push him away.

Ds won't say so but I do think he's scared of the situation. He's been staying here more than usual. Being here generally more than usual. I think its through fear though.

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Jumpinghoopsandloops · 02/09/2024 11:08

I spoke to ds sw this morning. I told her what my worries were. But also that I was worried that if ds knows it cone from me we may drive him back to this person . So she's going to try and steer the conversation in the right direction and see if she can coach things out of him without saying that I have said something.

On a positive note ds is now interacting within the family again. Him and dd are talking again. We had a lovely evening last night dd came over so did ds . Them 2 had a few drinks . And we were all playing song quiz laughing etc . It was nice. I feel like I Need to write lots about how happy I am 🤣

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