Has anyone ever given up power of attorney and can say what happened to the person concerned as a result?
TLDR:
I have POA over a close relative with dementia - they were horrible growing up, abusive and neglectful and I have significant mental health issues as a result. We have no relationship now, I haven’t seen or spoken them in 2+ years and basically just make sure the bills are paid. They’re currently in a care home on a temporary ‘rehab’ stay, following a hospital admission. Prior to this they had carers visiting at home.
I had a phone call today from the NHS continuing care asking me about what will happen once this placement and its funding end and what have I considered. I realised during this call that I think I’m incapable of acting in their best interests. I basically have a panic attack everytime a letter arrives for them, never mind the stress of having to sort out something like this.
So, what happens if I revoke my POA and just step right away from it all? It seems like this is a good time to do it - they’re already ‘safe’ and currently well cared for. Has anyone experienced something similar?
Please don’t pile on about what a terrible person I am for wanting to step away. This has been my own internal narrative for my entire life - that if I was ‘better’ in some way, they would have been ‘ok’. I’m finally getting over this but realistically I’m still tied to them because of the POA and I just can’t cope with that link anymore.