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Should I do a council exchange

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Stayorgo2024 · 28/08/2024 14:34

I was in temporary accommodation for a long time .

I eventually got housed. Into a 4/5 bed. It's 4 on paper but I use the dinning room as a bedroom so to me it's a 5. When I moved here 2.5 years I had 5 children with me . Adult ds moved out about 18 months ago.
17 year old ds moved out about a month osj ago .

So now I have 3 children at home plus myself. My reasons for staying would be ds17 is still very young. So I'm thinking i should give it a year maybe to make sure he's settled. He also still stays here often .

Also adult ds has touched on moving back home to save so he can buy his own place.

Also I love the house. We are settled kids are to. And I'm thinking the kids have moved enough...

Reasons right move would be:

This is a town house and I get really breathless /tired getting up the top of the stairs and I find that floor hard to keep clean/tidy I guess I could ask the kids to help more with that side of things.

I would still be exchanging for a 4 bed as ds has autism.

The area I want to go to is closer to my kids schools it would mean schools would be walking distance so no more buses. It would be better for my children socially. And the area feels more like home.

Other: I'm in a new build it's well insulated I have not had heating on for 2 years. Everything is perfect . No repairs needed. House is in good general condition.

The places I would swap with are old builds but more solid. But are colder in winter. They are smaller in room sizes. They were built in the 1930s and that definitely shows but the area is more like home to me .

OP posts:
Mum5net · 28/08/2024 14:48

Stay

Stayorgo2024 · 28/08/2024 15:07

Mum5net · 28/08/2024 14:48

Stay

Maybe. It's been a couple of years but maybe I am still settling

OP posts:
Mum5net · 28/08/2024 15:38

Reasons …
Your kids won’t need you to escort them on bus forever
Older kids and young adults will benefit from more space
A new area does take a while to become home
Your 17 year old might be back home permanently in say 3 months. It’s too early to say
Your adult DS will benefit by being able to save and that’s a great gift to a young person
You will be able to get the DC to do more chores, you just need to engage with them and insist
Breathless is no fun BUT if you don’t use it, you lose it … a townhouse is the equivalent of a gym membership
Lower heating bills and great insulation save you loads of money
Good luck ,OP, You sound a great mum.

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