Dishonest GP neighbour - should I report? To whom?

[BirdLad]

A neighbour who is a local GP and another neighbour, a barrister who is her family friend, are slandering our third neighbour via neighbourhood gossip. Third neighbour has always seemed a very nice person to me.

It’s come to my attention that the GP neighbour wanted to buy this third neighbour’s flat for her elderly mother, but was outbid. I’m now suspicious that she’s deliberately trying to provoke a neighbour dispute so third neighbour is forced to sell.

I’m absolutely outraged on third neighbour’s behalf and want to call it out. The second neighbour is a well-known local oddball, but I think it’s appalling that a GP should behave in this underhand and possibly racist way.

"Third neighbour has always seemed a very nice person to me."

"Seemed" being the operative word. You don't know the full story so keep well clear.

“Possibly racist” because the third neighbour is a POC and some of the whispering campaign is speculating about her wealth.

Sorry what has the person done wrong?

what is with all the long complicated stories on MN which don’t actually get to the point?

@WingSluts I know what you mean. I don’t want to be involved but I’m genuinely disgusted. It’s bullying.

Another thread today on the behaviour of professionals. It was 3 teachers earlier on

What do you mean report?
I have no idea who you might want to report this to!

I’m amazed when anyone expects GPs etc to be somehow paragons of virtue. It’s baffling.

This is none of your business. Stay well clear.

What are they actually saying though? If they are saying she's filthy it might mean she's dumping rubbish instead of putting it a bin, or leaving it uncovered so flies or rats etc are encouraged which will eventually impact on others.

Although you might not be able to report the one saying this, you might be able to support the other neighbour with council help or adult social services if they are struggling.

So it all falls on what is actually being said, and what is actually being meant by it.

Just keep out of neighbourhood gossip, it’s all a load of Chinese whispers which will be being egged on by people who love a bit of drama: if everyone simply said “well, Pam has always seemed nice enough to me, so I’m not going to get involved in talking about her behind her back” and ignored, there would be no gossip circulating. That’s how you “call it out.”

I would be tempted to visit the GP surgery and let the staff there know they are working with someone who is racist. Preferably with someone as a witness so that they cannot accuse you of saying things you did not.

As it is not said in a workplace, you cannot really report them to the GMC.

I think I’m going to take MN advice and mind my own business for now.

Who do you want to report this to and for what?

But are they being racist? You can't accuse people of that especially in their work place. All OP has said is they have wondered about her money. I think that every time I drive through a naice neighbourhood and I have no idea what race the owners are.

Based on what?
Op thinks the motivation is racist and maybe it is but it would be stupid and risky to visit a GP surgery and tell people that their employer is racist.

What is your profession OP?

i don’t think you should get involved at all in silly gossip, but just wondering if you were professionally linked to either of them?

Unless the GP has made a comment directly to the OP, it’s all 2nd/3rd/4th hand information. Going into someone’s place of work and making currently unfounded allegations of racism has the potential to not only ruin someone’s career but is probably the quickest way for the OP to find herself having to engage a firm of solicitors.

OP, I know you’ve said you’re going to keep out of it, but if it’s bothering you that much, then all you have to do the next time you hear gossip about her is say that your neighbour has always been perfectly nice to you so you won’t be engaging with it.

wtf ? So what if they are a doctor. Just mind your own business.