Baby will only sleep on me can't put her down HELP !!

[LizzeyBenett]

Has anyone got any advice my 11 week old will literally only sleep on my chest day and night she won't even sleep beside me in the bed let alone in a buggy . I was awake pretty much all last night trying to settle her as she has now started getting congested from laying on me in the night I'm assuming it's the heat from both of us so I was afraid to leave her on me for too long. DH took her this evening to try let me get some rest and she cried for and hour and a half he ended up bringing her up to me I was asleep I didn't know this was going on , she is now asleep on my chest absolutely exhausted. How do I get her to sleep independently I can't keep going on 2 hours sleep I'm very near a nervous breakdown and I feel so guilty because she is such an amazing little thing.

If she’s congested is it not more likely that it’s because she has a cold and not because she was lying on you? In which case the not sleeping is probably because of this too.

When babies are ill it is rough and you get little sleep. They often revert to only wanting their closest caregiver too, so it’s especially tough on you. It will pass, but in the meantime do whatever you can to get through. A sling during the day will help you get things done and get out and about. At night, if you haven’t already read up about safer co-sleeping.

Although it’s hard, you will survive a baby who is clingy because they are ill or even a long term clingy baby. Let go of what you think babies should do and look for workarounds. Sometimes acceptance of the situation, so you stop mentally fighting it, is enough to make it bearable.

Patience! She can be awake in the night, and may be overtired. Try a routine, bath in evening, reading to her, swaddling, but co sleeping with her on you is not recommended. Try sleeping when she does in the daytime.