When does it get better ?

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Relaitonship wise - 2 young DC one is 2.5 one is 7mo

we got to a good place then I got pregnant with our youngest

wr snap at eachother so much and he just is grating me at the monent

constantly wants to be in control , touchy as our eldest son favours me (not surprise as his dad is a lazy get!!!)

i do way more with the kids but he flips it on its head and says he provides more. And he does as he earns more but I don’t think that should be thrown in my face?

he is so difficult and so not understanding. 2 kids via c section and 1 I ebf for 6 months straight and not once has he cared or seemed to have sympathy for how much I’ve struggled

I’ve had PND with our youngest and he didn’t care then either and all I do is worry that’s affected our kids because I had that

My sister said she went in a rut with her husband after they had their kids (similar age gap) and it did get better

does it ? I just feel drained and all my energy is for my kids

Or any advice? I just constantly feel exasperated with him like I say all my energy is reserved for the kids

I'd go counselling, Relates is a good one.

We also argue and snap unfortunately, we try to chat & resolve when we can .

I do my best not to argue in front of DC though.

Good luck!

I’d second couples counselling - it really helps to get your point across, and understand the others POV, if there is someone to mitigate

Reading between the lines I think he isn’t pulling his weight, and you aren’t getting enough time together

It will get better but you want to avoid your relationship being broken in the meantime

Thanks. Yeah it feels like he never gets my point so counselling makes sense

yes any time he seems like he’ll try to argue (in front of kids) I shut it down and ignore him as I don’t like this but I don’t want to snap at him and him snap at me in front of them either :(