Newborn DC is 2 weeks. We have an older DC (nearly 8) and our situation is different from most as they are home educated due to ASD (highly academically gifted but cannot cope socially with school) so there is no daily school run to contend with but also means I have them around most of the time. They attend a brilliant alternative educational setting 2 days a week 10-3.30 which annoyingly is 45 minutes on the bus (I can't drive as I get migraines that cause me to lose my sight temporarily) - we're used to this and it's fine but with an EBF baby in tow I'm panicking slightly about it, along with just generally managing everything. DH (who is Dad to both) is nearing the end of his paternity leave now and I'm just feeling a bit fragile about really basic things like getting dinner on the table at a reasonable time given baby wants to feed at unpredictable times. Older DC is absolutely brilliant and independent in a lot of respects but requires a lot of 1:1 stimulation, and also needs to stick relatively to a routine, and I don't want them to feel sidelined by the baby.
I know people do this all the time and I just need to crack on with it but would love some tips from those more experienced. It's a big age gap and most stuff online deals with managing toddlers and newborns.