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Do you respect/admire your OH?

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Tijuanajoanna · 24/08/2024 12:27

My husband is so hardworking, always tries to better himself, is always kind and helpful, is always trying to learn more, clever, industrious, can turn his hand to anything and has so much confidence and belief in himself that he honestly really inspires me. He just makes everything look so easy and since I've been with him, my confidence has increased so much as he has had so much faith in me that I've pushed myself to do things I didn't think I could do. Obviously, he isn't perfect and we have had our moments, nor do I put him on a pedestal as he is only human.

When I get chatting to friends or read about people's partners on mumsnet, I do get a tone of contempt from the women, and it usually has to do with an element of uselessness that their men seem to have. I've a friend and I get the impression that she thinks her husband is an idiot and that's not rare. I know a woman who said that she would never dream of making her husband a cup of tea as she isn't his slave. My husband is a really good man and I like surprising him with little things or making him things I know he likes.

I think that I don't just love him, but I really, really respect him. Obvopusly there should be fundamental respect for everyone you have any kind of relationship with, but for me, i have a very tangible feeling of 'wow, he did a great job with that' or 'I know i can always rely on him for x'. I know he feels the same as he always speaks respectfully to me and values my opinion and my feelings matter to him.

I am sure that lots of other women feel the same but the narrative which I spot seems to be how useless and annoying their men are.

What's your experience?

OP posts:
Mumoftwo1316 · 24/08/2024 12:29

When I read about people's partners on mumsnet,

They're coming here for support.

Women with nice husbands don't start threads about them, because they don't need support. [This thread being the exception...tone-deaf exception]

I do admire and respect my dh. I've got 99 problems but dh ain't one.

Glowingreviews · 24/08/2024 12:29

I hugely admire, respect and love my husband. He’s the best person I know.

ComtesseDeSpair · 24/08/2024 12:39

Mumoftwo above is correct: forums aren’t representative, you’re seeing the people who have poor and problematic relationships or have reached the point where they’re desperate enough to ask for help, than the happy people who aren’t asking for advice.

Yes, I respect and admire and fiercely love DH. I knew immediately from the way he treats his friends, family, business partners and people he comes into close contact with - and the way they treat him - that he’s an honest, principled and reliable man who has others’ respect. I married somebody who I wouldn’t be afraid to divorce if I ever had to.

Summertimer · 24/08/2024 12:44

On the whole, yes.

Sometimes we disagree, but no one is perfect. I don’t think I am either.

I respect he has a career in which he’s a high flyer and that he respects my career. Family life fits in with that.

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