Adult kids & Board.

[missmouse1969]

I have been with my now fiancée for two years.
I live in my home with my 3 school aged children and he has his home with his 20yr old son (and his son's girlfriend) who both stay over 4 nights a week. The other three nights GF goes back to her family and son goes to his mother's house.

It has been annoying my fiancée for sometime that neither his son or GF contribute to food, chores etc. Son has just qualified as an electrician and earning decent money and GF is a student and working part time.

My fiancée spoke to them both last night and said he would like £100 a month board from them.
GF was upset and felt pushed out and not wanted. Son was fine with it.
The three of them had a chat and have decided that instead of paying board, son and GF will instead buy all the food and cook for my fiancée.
He's happy with this. It just means I will make and eat my tea at my home before going over to see him. And if when I arrive they haven't yet eaten I don't want to look like a spare part so I'll probably go and sit in a different room while they are eating?!
I know this sounds unreasonable but I used to love to cook for him & us eat together.
Sorry if I'm coming across as unreasonable.

Well do you want to chip in to the food shop they are buying if you are also staying and eating there?

Sounds as if another discussion should take place and a different compromise made - unless dp is happy never eating with you?

Thank you both.
Yes you're right a different conversation needs to be had between fiancée and I.
I'm just feeling pretty gutted & bruised at the moment.
We've had the happiest of nearly 3 years and dealt with awful stuff from my ex and yet this has made me feel so upset and I don't want my guard to ever go up again.

We have a similar situation with dd and her boyfriend who stays over 5-6 nights a week. He gives us £50 a week and for that gets all his food thrown in, plus use of the all the facilities