Dc are 15 and 17 and spending the week with ex having been away with me for the first part of the summer holidays. Today they've gone to his home town (about 90 mins away) where his dm and dsis live, though ex has taken the dc to a hotel.
I was messaged by dc2 about 40 mins ago asking for help as ex was ringing 111 due to stomach pains. When we spoke, it turned out ds was unconcerned about ex, who he told me has been burping a lot, but worried about how he would pay for his meal in the restaurant. However, ex has now paid so ds is fine 🤔. Ex does have a few health issues, including epilepsy, which dc know about, but none have ever played up when they have been with him.
It turns out that dc1 has been back in our hometown today for sporting reasons but his now on his way to the hotel and is about an hour away. Ds2 is alone in the hotel as ex has been advised to attend a walk-in centre, which he has done by taxi. Ds2 is fine as he knows ds1 will be there soon. I have messaged ds1 separately, which ds2 had also done, and he is fine and unconcerned.
Both dc have told me they are fine and are confident that ex will be with them soon and that he would be annoyed if he was fine but that I had turned up in the meantime. I have told them I can collect them first thing in the morning in the unlikely event that ex is more seriously ill and they are fine with that. The fact is, I have had a few glasses of wine so couldn't drive now anyway, though obviously could get a taxi if it was an emergency.
I feel really guilty but both dc seem fine - I think ds2 wouldn't want to be on his own but is happy in the knowledge ds1 will be with him soon. Ds1 seems fine with it and I think would be annoyed if I insisted on turning up tonight. Is this ok or do I need to get a taxi? Ex hasn't contacted me but I imagine he has assumed dc have. His family in this city are not in the best of health and probably can't be relied upon in the event of the situation worsening. What would you do?