Is this normal

[purpleme12]

My child plays with neighbour LOTS
Neighbour went out today.
I think underneath she was still constantly thinking about how it's getting closer to when she might be back, oooh it might be only 4 hours till she's back now and even when she was doing something else she's still thinking about that. It's like she fixates.
She keeps going to check out the window if they're back a lot.
Sometimes I think she's a bit obsessed.
Then she's back and she jumps up and that's all that matters and she can't think of anything else and it's the end of the world if I say she needs to do this and that first.
She is 10
Is this normal

So your child is looking out the window waiting for her friend to come back so they can play?
Sounds fairly normal to me.

I don't think it comes across on here

So intense

Will she go out with you if the neighbour kid is around, or does she resist doing anything else when there's a chance to play with her?

Do you think the neighbour kid, or parents, are finding it a bit too much?

yes she resists doing anything else if there's a chance to play with her.

No i don't think they're finding it too much. it's not that. i was just wondering. i have suspicions about my child sometimes. she is very intense. and it's hard.

Oh gosh, we used to have a neighbour like your child (same age). Lovely family, sensible, caring etc- but the kid was constantly at ours, knocking on the door for my kid, sat on the wall singing when we were eating to attract my kid's attention...

As soon as we arrived back from a day out, neighbour kid would be on our doorstep.

It was relentless and bordered on harrassement, tbh. I mean my kid was happy to play but not All The Time.

Parent was apologetic but did not really stop it.

Turns out the kid did have some mild LD, but yeah, it was quite exhausting tbh.

I would say we have lived next door to quite a few kids, but this was the only one who behaved like this, so yes, I would say it is not usual.

Is the neighbour another child or an adult?

another child

'I have suspicions about my child sometimes. she is very intense. and it's hard'

Suspicions about what ?

Are you suspecting she is Autistic OP? Are you seeing this as some sort of fixation beyond what may be typical?

It could be but I'd really look at whether there are other clues beyond just this.

Yes just wondered if others had same experience. But it's hard to get everything across on here sometimes.

It's hard to say. My 9.5 year old has a couple of friends on the street that she plays with and sometimes she'll watch out for them coming home so they can play.
But she definitely isn't obsessive- she's happy to go out and do stuff instead of playing for example, and if I say it's too late to go over now she's ok with that.

Be careful that she's not becoming a nuisance though. We used to have a little girl next door who would want to play with my older daughter all the time and would knock at like 9am on a Sunday etc, it really got too much and my daughter sometimes didn't feel like playing and this girl wouldn't take no for an answer