Experience of DV - perpetrator enjoyed it

[Bathandbed]

Hi- I wondered if any could share their own insights/experiences of being hurt by their partner but their partner seeming to smile and enjoy it. Not violence in the context of anger … sometimes could be very random no build up. Doesn’t follow the traditional published pattern at all….no heart flowers apologies….just “deserved that” attitude then back to business as usual.guess I’m asking as I can’t make sense of it all even though it ended years ago. I don’t think it was sexual either.

My ex was like this. He seems to have some personality disorder and he is really immature

Is this a journalism post?

No it’s a post from someone trying to understand what the hell happens to them and why and trying to get support from others …same as most posts here

Okay.

Well then yes-I had an ex throw me down the stairs, backwards, by my neck. After trying to strangle me.

Not long after this, ex told me that the main thing that had concerned them about what they did, was that they didn't get the huge psychological thrill they'd thought they would get, from essentially trying to murder me. They were disappointed in their own natural reaction.

So that's nice, isn't it.

Bloody hell!!