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How to stop sabotaging

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DebtFreeHopeful · 20/08/2024 00:33

I'm early 40s and it's taken me this long to realise I get completely discombobulated in the run up to ovulation.

I'm a bit tired after my period then energy goes up, then I have a little lull of energy around ovulation, then I sort of feel steady for the rest of the month.

But the brain fog!

To give an example, my mortgage runs out in November and I meant to be paying off debts. The longer term plan is to move house. Something happened that meant moving house may be delayed. However logically this doesn't change the fact my mortgage is going up in November and I need to continue to pay off debts. What did I do instead? Waste about £250 on meals out. I've now just checked the damage and realised what an idiot I have been as I now have to earn that back. How is it that complicated to stick to a plan? And just because one thing changes the rest of the plan still stays.

Not sure what I'm asking, just why am I sabotaging things that will make me happy long term? How can I remember the changes I am trying to make?

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Babadook76 · 20/08/2024 00:46

I think the biggest issue here is excuses. You’re pissing money up the wall on treats just because you feel like it. You’re getting away with this by dismissing it on conditions like ovulating and self sabotaging, like you can’t possibly help it, something else is making you. You don’t come across as too thick to work out a budget, and you know exactly where all this money is being wasted. Stop using excuses and start exercising a bit of discipline

DebtFreeHopeful · 20/08/2024 01:03

Thanks @Babadook76 . I'm not intending to make excuses but I can see how it comes across this way so thanks for this perspective.

I have been very stressed at work and I was sort of focusing on things within my control because I don't want to blame work, it's my choice to do the job I do.

I can do consistent discipline, I did it last year and went to the gym. I have a budget. I just am a a fuckwit when it comes to it. It's like the last issue I really need to get a handle on and resolve it for myself really. Not for anyone else.

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