Is this abuse?

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I feel like i am stuck in a relationship, I have been with my partner for 3 years now, I moved into the house which is is, but i have always felt like a lodger, I have been told he is controlling me, I have to ask when i can have a bath, if he does not want to watch the tv, he turns it off and we sit in silence, I cannot go out then again I have no friends to go out with, he does not want me to work, help.

Well, yes. It's abuse. Why are you still there? Do you have children together? Because if it's his house and you have no children then I would pack your bags and leave. Go and stay with a friend or family member if you can, whatever it takes. This stuff doesn't get better.

Op if you really have nowhere to go then take a bag to a police station... You do not need to live like this. The police will find an appropriate place to take you. Even a refuge you can bath /shower whenever you choose....

I have no friends anymore since i met him i also do not speak to my family, my children are grown up, I think i have been blind to all of this thinking its normal

No this is not normal

Can you pick back up with family or friends, if he’s stopped you from having a relationship with them they’re probably very worried about you & may be very happy to help you get away. Could you try and get in touch with them?

Your children will probably be very pleased you want to get away from him.

This isn’t right, you don’t need to live like this, you can start again if you leave.

Reach out to your dc op.

Is he actually preventing you leaving?
The advice to go to a police station and they’re find you a place to stay is frankly bizarre.

Yes this is abuse. He's very controlling and has isolated you. What do you want to do?

I need to leave him, as he says he will change but he as not, he does not hit me or anything like that its just the control thing, i do not have any dealings with my family anymore, I also suffer with anxiety so I am often afraid to be alone