Husband snores every night. Who else has this problem? Any advice?

[Heathertee]

My husband is 40 and he snores every night. It is pretty much constant through the night, though there are a few lulls. He snores when both on his back and on his side. It is often loud. I am woken up through ear plugs.

I normally start off in the same bed, but most nights I move to the spare room quite soon after. I sometimes fall asleep then get woken up. Occasionally I manage to sleep in our bed for the whole night, but only if I'm really tired.

When we go on holiday to a B&B or hotel, I often sleep badly because there's no spare room. So it's a problem on holidays. We can't afford separate bedrooms in a hotel, so I often lie awake.

Does anyone on here have a similar problem? Is this common? How do you cope? Any advice about how we could make things better?

Yes Ive got one of these😅 it doesn't bother me too much because I barely sleep anyway. The first thing would be for him to go to GP to get checked out. Would he do that for you?

my advice: divorce.
I had one of these. Note the past tense. If a partner's health issues are causing me to have health issues (lack of sleep, with its end results, being the obvious one here) and impacting my life (holidays in your case), I expect them to do something about fixing it. Not just ignore it because it doesn't bother them. That wasn't his only issue, there were other issues that came down to the same root cause - selfishness.

I'm awake wondering the same OP. I am also thinking what more can I do to get my husband to go to the GP. He is so selfish. He has said but the GP will want me to lose weight. Fucking do that then!

Endless googling and unfortunately he doesn't seem to have sleep apnea which he would get treatment for because it's a medical problem. That could help you though...

My other half snores badly. I use side sleeping earphones to listen to an audio book (one I've heard a thousand times). It's the only thing that allows me to sleep in the same bed.

Unfortunately, we have the same problem. Be uses "nose clips" and when he sleeps on the side with the clips it is more tolerable. I wear earplugs all night and put sleeping music next to my side of the bed.

Although, if I'm sick and waking up through the night, it's impossible to fall asleep again and then he's kicked out to the spare bedroom.

They sell those earplugs and nose clips on Amazon, quite affordable.

Thankfully me and dp don't live together.

My husband snores, he’a laying on his front snoring right now (not why I’m awake), it doesn’t bother me I can sleep through anything apart from the kids making noise.

Some people use special mouth guards from the dentist with success.

Why are you the one fucking off to the spare room and not him?

I’m awake listening to my DH rattle away and wondering why I’m not in the spare room, and my DH is not that bad.
personally I would consider setting up the spare room so it’s got lovely linen, v comfortable etc, and say you’ll sleep separately from now on until he gets his snoring seen to

I divorced mine due to this and he couldn't do anything about it. Holidays were just hell!!! He was the only one on holiday as he slept well. Selfish!!! Of course there were other issues. It's his problem to sort he needs to go to the doctors.

My sympathy. 40 years I tolerated it then moved into the spare room. Bliss. Go back into the snorers den in the morning for a cup of tea. Holidays are impossible so gave them up too.

Mine is the same. After 10 years has finally agreed to get checked for sleep apnoa. I sleep in a seperate room even on holiday when we normally get a villa. I will not accept my sleep being affected, I can even hear him through the wall.

He needs to go to the GP and get referred for a sleep apnea assessment. Untreated it can cause heart disease, high BP, stroke, type 2 diabetes, depression etc. It’s serious stuff and not just a noise irritation.

DH was assessed after years of snoring and it transpires that his is at the more severe end of the scale, and he now has a CPAP machine.

What is he doing about it?

Has he gone to the drs or taken an online questionnaire to determine what type of snoring he has?

Has he tried any suggested products like strips or nasal dilators?

Why are you sleeping in the spare room and not him?

My Mrs snores like hell...help...

I just wrote a post about this! Aside the holiday part which yes is really a problem isn’t it. I now dread hotels for snoring reason. It’s so hard when couples don’t ‘match’ in sleep, as obviously it’s crucial you both get it. I advocate separate rooms (& do it as we can) but it does affect our relationship as hubby isn’t happy sleeping alone. I think it’s also down to our relationship- how is yours otherwise? - but there are also a lot of medical tests people can do & get treatment. Another thread here advises snorer sees Dr to get evaluation then take appropriate action.

if that doesn’t help & you can’t sleep separately either due to lack of room or partner not happy about it, tbh I don’t know. I think we all really need our own space & trying to sleep together seems a recipe for disaster once the honeymoon phase has worn off. What to do?!

Record him so he can believe you. Send him to the go and get a referral to a sleep clinic. Sleep apnea is a deadly illness and it can be helped immensely by using a cpap machine. Life changing for me and my DH.

I suggest separate bedrooms for sleeping. For everything else you can spend time together in your main room for to actually sleep own of you can claim the spare room. We recently made this decision after years of neither of us having our ideal conditions for sleep due to the other preferences and it has been a game changer. Time together in our bedroom is special and enjoyable now. Sleeping is all we do apart!

Separate rooms. Absolute bliss. I snore too. We are soooo much happier in separate rooms.

I snore horribly. DH bought me a SilentNight Anti Snore pillow from Lidl for about £5 and it cut the snoring drastically. It works if it is used on its own not combined with any other pillows.

The only thing that helped DH was a CPAP machine - he has severe sleep apnea

He NEEDS to start doing something about it - Nd HE needs to fuck off to HR spare room, not you

If anyone is reading this who has been told that they snore. please take it seriously. There are threads about this often on MN and some people persist in treating snoring like a comical but harmless little habit which can’t be helped. It’s not!

People don’t snore on purpose but People who snore can (and must!) do something about it. Snoring is extremely anti social and seriously undermines your partners ability to function in daily life. It is also harmful to the snorer. It can be the sign of a serious underlying condition and/or is also harming your own quality of life.

There are lots of things you can do about snoring. Do something straightaway!

I used to be a terrible snorer and my poor DH was the long suffering partner kept awake - it's one of the main reasons I decided to seriously try to lose weight this year (obese bmi). After losing a decent chunk he says I have totally stopped snoring! Weight is a big factor.

No ideas sorry, but I don't think you're the only one with this problem!