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Is 50.00 enough

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 20:26

Dd is going on holiday with my EX (not her dad) they are there for 4 night. It's all inclusive. Is 50.00 enough to give her?

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 21:18

Jennyathemall · 18/08/2024 20:55

Oh well that’s ok then.

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Just to confirm he's not a peado.

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 21:19

Snugglewuggle25 · 18/08/2024 20:54

My thoughts exactly. Sorry but no. ☹️

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Why?

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tothelefttotheleft · 18/08/2024 21:20

£50 is masses. Also you don't want to create a situation where your child has loads of money but the other children don't.

Choochoo21 · 18/08/2024 21:20

Yes it’s fine.

Does she have a phone?
If so, ask her to text you if she runs out of money.

As it’s all inclusive then I doubt she’d need any more and I wouldn’t give her anymore as she may spend it just because she has it.

ASongbirdAndAnOldHat · 18/08/2024 21:21

5475878237NC · 18/08/2024 21:18

Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility. Mist people seem in denial that it's usually a male relative who sexually abuses children, not unknown strangers. It was a reasonable question many posters thought to ask.

Given OPs other replies, as they're not going to be alone, I would also let her go. Just because he was in her life a long time doesn't mean he is somehow "safe". That's not the defining factor otherwise birth parents would also be "safe".

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So in your world you wouldn't let her go even if he was her birth parent?

KEG05 · 18/08/2024 21:22

Op people are being ridiculous. It’s lovely she’s been included with her siblings. He has obviously been in her life for a long time. If my partner and I split up my eldest (also 14) would be gutted if she wasn’t invited somewhere with her younger sisters.

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 21:23

Namechange546 · 18/08/2024 21:13

Butlins is a tricky one. If it's just her spending/fun money then £50 would be enough.

If your ex is expecting you to cover the cost of her food, it will depend whether they are planning on self catering in their accommodation or eating out. Fish and chips at the takeaway are around £10 and a main course in the restaurants are £10-£15. Plus breakfast/lunch/drinks/ice cream etc, shed struggle on £50.

Plus will they do activities? The swimming is free but most other things (crazy golf, wall climbing, high ropes etc) are all payable.

I'm assuming you have a decent relationship with ex if he is taking your DD away with the others so, hopefully, he wouldn't leave her out of she didn't have enough cash and you could pay him back afterwards.

All food etc is included . No he would never leave her out.

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 21:27

5475878237NC · 18/08/2024 21:18

Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility. Mist people seem in denial that it's usually a male relative who sexually abuses children, not unknown strangers. It was a reasonable question many posters thought to ask.

Given OPs other replies, as they're not going to be alone, I would also let her go. Just because he was in her life a long time doesn't mean he is somehow "safe". That's not the defining factor otherwise birth parents would also be "safe".

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Could have just asked. Who else is going etc . Instead of implying he's a peado .

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Imnotbad · 18/08/2024 21:30

tothelefttotheleft · 18/08/2024 21:20

£50 is masses. Also you don't want to create a situation where your child has loads of money but the other children don't.

They won't go without . He can't say no to anything 😬

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Ucchildcare · 18/08/2024 22:28

5475878237NC · 18/08/2024 21:18

Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility. Mist people seem in denial that it's usually a male relative who sexually abuses children, not unknown strangers. It was a reasonable question many posters thought to ask.

Given OPs other replies, as they're not going to be alone, I would also let her go. Just because he was in her life a long time doesn't mean he is somehow "safe". That's not the defining factor otherwise birth parents would also be "safe".

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But as the parent she had made an informed decision to let her daughter go. Why are random strangers on the internet questioning her judgement? Very strange

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