Have I done something wrong?

[Ladyyyy]

My 2.5 yo is so wary of many things. Animals he doesn’t like the farm/getting close up to animals. He was a bit with dogs but this has eased we worked through it but he’s only comfortable with our dog.

some new people , he doesn’t melt down but we did meet my auntie out once and he clung to me melt down didn’t want to go into certain houses when we’ve went to go places.

He was so fearless this time last year it was almost scary we went to a deer park and he was running around trying to go up to them! And now I think he’d be scared if we went there

have I done something wrong? They seem to have just sprouted and sprouted and I try and help him work through them we did work through the dogs in the park one

He’s also only really playing with kids at nursery so I can’t arrange play dates I wanted to get back in touch with a friend who has a kid his age but he’d not play with her I think he’d just be withdrawn and not interact

but is this normal? :( we had a baby just before his 2nd birthday my mum suggested this change may be adjusting to a new sibling along with his brain developing

Some kids are more cautious than others and yes he's getting use to the adjustment.

How is he at nursery ? Do they have any concerns? Is he sociable?

I wouldn't make him do things he's uncomfortable with eg go to a farm if he's genuinely scared. But I would gently push him out of his comfort zone. So do visit family/friends. If he wants to stay near you be relaxed about it don't try to force him to interact. The more relaxed you are and the more he can trust you with his boundaries hopefully he will start to relax and feel able to do more.

Absoloutely fine at nursery he loves the kids there and the only thing he’s been upset at lately is he’s moving up room so he didn’t want to leave his key person! So a normal upset

Yes we don’t go I meant in the past i’d tried but I’ve stopped now

i just felt so worried because it started around him turning 2 which is when i had his sibling also

No I think this is just how some kids are. You could try getting some books about being brave and sharing worries.

Okay good I know he’ll be who he’ll be of course it wasn’t a post about that it’s more I want to help but we got over our fear of dogs in public he’s still cautious but doesn’t sob at them now

bur I was also worried he was stressed because our youngest had colic and even now still cries a lot and requires so much because he’s so young so I was worried the stress of having this younger sibling caused it or it’s my fault for having another baby

Completely normal

My dc was apprehensive and clingy as a young child.
We found he wasn’t keen on any surprises . We always explain things in advance now- today we are going to see auntie, go to a new cafe etc. We also think of things that might happen that we don’t expect- maybe there will be some dogs, maybe the cafe will be closed and we’ll do something else…..Dc is now a very confident 11 year and but still likes a plan, totally fine with any thing unexpected as well.
Don’t forget that he’s so little still and cannot articulate any worries to you very well.

Yeah he’s got a bit of a speech delay too so when he’s been nervous so i.e the dog fear he’d just scream and sob and say no no no dog etc

and of course doesn’t fully understand emotions etc!