False allegations in family court..

[Leabee1234]

Hi. So if a dad has a child arrangement order ( he sees child every other weekend and Sunday in-between) had to fight for this in court for 4 year old son.
The mother of child has stopped contact and put in false allegations of domestic violence and violence towards his child and also he has a criminal hearing of an alleged assault on her mother but this is also not true. However they only have ring doorbell footage if then arguing but no physical violence.

The mother has now put an emergency hearing in to family court for next week safeguarding concerns as she wants contact stopped again permanently
The mother is also pregnant with another child with this man due in October

She wants to move to the other side of country and cut him off. She has always been very vindictive

He has had to get an emergency solicitor and has just found a load of evidence of her self harming and trying to commit suicide infront of her children ( photos videos and voicenotes she sent to him)
Will this go against her in court ?

This man is my 1 year old sons dad. Me and him have finally became civil and I have never stopped contact he is a good dad to our son even though we have had our disagreements and he hurt me (relationship wise) he has never harmer our child or me physically.

I am just worried about him and also he is being accused of so much don't know if this will impact my son and worried social services might come knocking on my door.

Are family court fair in these cases? He is worried and says they usually side with women and he feels some can be 'racist' I am not sure as I have never experienced family court

If he has a criminal court hearing for assault there must have been enough evidence for the CPS to instruct the police to charge him. They don’t do this lightly.
I think the previous poster’s advice to you to make your own life for you and your ds and leave him to sort his own mess out is the best. Do you really want your child growing up with all this going on?

I pity the kids in all this.

The incident apparently happened in February. He got arrested last week for it as they called.the police to report it then. I am not sure why it's going to a hearing they said they have ring door footage but he didn't touch her apparently. I don't want my son being bought up around this no . And I know if I stopped contact he'd also take me to court and I don't want that stress. So I just let him be a dad and obviously trust him with our son

So do I.

I think it's tragic that the two mothers won't allow their children to grown up having a relationship with their siblings all because they wanted the same man and he played them both!

Imagine Teg ops son at some point being asked if he has any siblings and having to reply that he's got older siblings and a younger sibling who have the same mother!

It's like a Jeremy Kyle show.

Excuse me? I have encouraged a relationship with my son and her son - as.i said he had a child arrangement order and my son was around his brother every contact visit! And I encouraged that

Yes I know I have to explain to.my child that he will have a sibling younger and older with the same different mother and that will be difficult however I did not know this was going to happen. It was infact me who got played and was pulled into this bullshit I didn't know was going to happen or him getting back with his ex whilst I was still pregnant! Unfortunately we cannot control what other people do!

However all I care about is my son his wellbeing and tried to encourage a bond with his dad AND sibling!

I admire your openness and honesty.

I also admire how you are clearly trying to do what you thinks best for your son despite his dad doing what he's done.

My advice will be to retain that openness and honesty with any services that become involved.

But don't get dragged into stating facts that you've heard second hand. Just state what you can categorically say is true - eg he sees your son EOW and you've never had concerns. He's never physically hurt you etc

This is absolutely ridiculous. You have allowed yourself to get involved with an absolutely hopeless human being who not only cheats in every relationship but who is unable to successfully use birth control. He is careless, to say the least, and though he seems to have some limited interest in his (male?) children he doesn’t have the capacity or intention of forming a successful family to actually care for them.

Your standards for your ex—for your friend and former boyfriend—are so low they are abyssal. Wake up! Let his problems e his problem. In the long run he will simply keep shavking up with women, getting them pregnant, and then fighting with them to see the kids until they too give up any illusion. How many children can he afford? Is his name Elon Musk? Because he’s got 22 but he can afford them.

This is not about my previous relationship with my ex this is about our child and the children. Of course I didn't know he would be lile this when I met him! Everyone makes mistakes and I've said he is not a good person relationship wise and at the moment I just tolerate him in a civil way for my son! Nothing more (on pick ups and drop offs)