I've been so stupid. Pullout and morning after pill and ovulation. So anxious.

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I already know I've been stupid. I met a guy today and had sex. He put it in me for about a minute or two before pulling out, he didn't cum from sex but other activities after. I've just worked out I think I'm ovulating. I went to the only open pharmacy in town to get the morning after pill earlier but they didn't have any and suggested I try elsewhere first thing tomorrow, but I'm worried it'll be too late as MAP is only effective before ovulation.

I feel so so stupid. I can't eat or think or function, I'm so scared and anxious. I am a single mother to two aged 2+4. Please can anyone advise what to do or provide reassurance. It's going to be a long couple of weeks waiting for my period :(

Thank you.

Definitely still take the MAP as soon as you can. It's highly unlikely you would be pregnant as while it's technically possible from precum it's really not easy.

I will do first thing tomorrow, I'm just so so worried it's too late due to it having to be taken before ovulation to be effective. I know it's my own fault.

Well you have about a 12 hour window when you're ovulating so you'd have to be really amazingly unlucky to have a) been in that window and b) actually have some active sperm in the precum.

The other option is to have a copper coil fitted. You may not like that idea but it is more effective. The clinic will be able to advise you.

Sorry to bump my own thread but I'm still feeling incredibly anxious and can't eat or sleep with worry. I took the morning after pill (the one beginning with L, as I'm breastfeeding) approximately 18 hours after sex (which lasted approximately a minute or two and he ejaculated much later through oral). But as I'm sure it was bang on my ovulation day I'm very apprehensive that the pill still may not be enough, if any sperm was hanging around in his precum.

Considering contacting sexual health clinic first thing tomorrow to enquire about emergency copper coil fitting. I feel very anxious about it as I find smear tests and internal examinations excruciating, and also have severely heavy periods due to endometriosis, so just wondering if anyone knows if I can have it in then removed once I'm "in the clear"? Obviously a traumatic insertion still preferable to an unwanted pregnancy.

Thanks for any advice, I'm so stressed and very annoyed with myself for being in this position.

I had the emergency coil fitted a few years ago. I kept it for a few months after but you can have it out earlier.

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Copper coil fitting scheduled for tomorrow. Can anyone tell me what to expect please?

I feel so frightened of everything. Saw sexual health nurse today who said odds are in my favour as he didn't ejaculate and I took morning after pill, but I don't think I'll feel relaxed until a period and/or a negative test in a few weeks. Also, the guy in question has now ghosted me. I feel so so low :(

Forget about the bloke, he’s irrelevant.

Re the coil, take paracetamol and ibuprofen ahead of time, and try and relax.

Honestly it’s not that bad- because you know. I had an unpleasant experience because I was so shocked. I hadn’t been warned. I was totally surprised and shocked. Thy isn’t going to happen to you.

Don’t beat yourself up, you are being responsible.

Thank you. I guess I'm just feeling a bit miffed that he doesn't have to deal with any of this but it is what it is.

I'm just praying it's all enough to prevent a pregnancy, I'm so worried it's too late because of my likely ovulation date.

Don't beat yourself up. You sound like you are taking proactive steps and will get everything sorted. I had a coil fitted as emergency contraception and kept it 10 years.

It’s not too late. The copper coil can be fitted up to 5 days after unprotected sex and is effective after ovulation too.

If you are pregnant OP ( and this sounds highly unlikely) you will have found out very early and you have options available to you xx

You really won’t be pregnant. But, if you’re that unlucky, you’ll find out very early and you’ll take the abortion pill. It’ll be a non-event.

In the future, be more careful about your health. You have children. You cannot be having unprotected sex. Use a condom or don’t have sex. You’ve had two kids, you should know this.

Copper coil insertion failed as it was so excruciatingly painful I was crying, the nurse said she couldn't continue. We did try a few times with numbing gel etc. I feel like such a failure. Just have to keep my fingers crossed now but picked up a pack of tests on way home just in case. Gah.

You are not a failure. We are all built differently. I’m sorry you are still on tenterhooks. What a wearing situation for you. ((Hugs)).

I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough time lately, and that your appointment today didn’t go to plan 😔 Really seems that the last few days have just been a blur of sadness and pain and stress and tears, which is really awful for you. However, you’ve done everything you possibly can to prevent a pregnancy; you can’t do anymore right now and stressing and beating yourself up really won’t help at all. Infact it will just make things harder for you.

So, difficult as it may be, try to put the worries out of your mind for the time being - after all, you could be worrying for no reason (which is likely, tbh, considering what occurred and the measures you’ve taken afterward)

Hang in there for now and see what the next few weeks bring. No good worrying about these things that are out of your control, so just try and give yourself a break, don’t get dragged into the spiral of anxiety! You can deal with things as and when, but hopefully you’ll just get your period and everything will go on as normal - fingers crossed you’ll get the outcome you want, then can put this worrying experience behind you, and learn from it!!! 💕

Please get yourself checked for STI, especially as you are still breastfeeding, probably not an issue but you wouldn't want your pass anything on to your child.

I was checked today at my appointment, but thank you. Definitely worth doing.

Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes I'll definitely be learning from it. It's the first time I'd had sex in almost three years, I can't believe how reckless I've been. Not worth it at all.

You certainly aren’t the first, and won’t be the last to get caught up in the moment and then worry about consequences after the fact 🙈 So, go easy on yourself, but theres no denying you’ve definitely learned your lesson the hard way!
Keep us updated; I’m sure in a couple weeks you’ll feel like a weight has lifted when you finally get confirmation that you aren’t pregnant, and we will all be breathing a simultaneous sigh of relief with ya! 😅

I’m sorry OP. I didn’t want to say before as I knew you were nervous but my copper coil insertion has horrendous too. I was lay there for 20 minutes and 3 people had to try and they couldn’t get it in!