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Fear of death and bringing children into the world

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FirstLeagueOutFromLand · 15/08/2024 14:44

I am sometimes terrified by the thought of dying. I remember being in an MRI scanner once and having a panic attack and feeling so scared. For some reason it made me think of death. Maybe it was the tomb like experience. I remember in that moment just thinking that at some point we all have to step into that void and accept it. It didn't help me relax in the scanner!

Another time I was climbing a bell tower in a sunny European city. It had steps with big gaps and as I got higher I again remember feeling terrified if I was to jump or fall. Then I thought to myself that we all will have to face death. For some reason the precariousness made me worry more. Even though it's unlikely that we'll die in an awful accident like that, we still have to accept the end. I'm still scared.

I have beautiful, innocent young children. They already ask questions. And sometimes I hate the fact that I brought them into the world to have to face these questions and a certain end. And they may end up being really scared as well at some point. I wish I hadn't had them. And it all just ended with me.

Anyone feel this way or have ideas about how I can frame it differently in my mind?

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FirstLeagueOutFromLand · 15/08/2024 21:40

Just me then!

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MoveToParis · 15/08/2024 21:43

Are you afraid of the process of dying, or of being dead?

Haggisfish3 · 15/08/2024 21:45

It’s not just you. It’s really common-called existentialism. If I get this, I focus on having fun and being kind. And I say this is the purpose of life to my dc. I try to do as many things a so can to enjoy life. I’m not talking big things-I mean getting out into nature and meeting loads of new people as that is what I enjoy. What do you enjoy? Do that more, is my advice.

How2024 · 15/08/2024 21:47

I feel similar feelings. Sometimes I think that I would rather not have been born at all, that way I could avoid the inevitable pain and suffering, both emotional and physical, that death brings. I don’t like thinking about it or voicing it.

One way that I have heard people frame it is that death is as much a part of life as life itself. It’s natural.

The hard part for humans IMO is that we are aware.

The other terrifying thoughts are around bad things happening to the people I am close to.

This is probably not much help but just to say that you aren’t alone.

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