My dad makes me feel like a massive failure ...

[richyclip]

I'm 38 and ever since I was born he has made me feel useless.
I lost my job 3 months ago when the company went into administration.
Since then I've had £393 to live on a month.
My gas and electric is £180 so I've struggled.
There's been months when I've had to borrow £60 from my dad ,sometimes £70 for food...but it's a vicious cycle as when I got paid the £393 I paid him back and had to borrow again for food.

Anyway thankfully I've just got a job as a receptionist at my local nhs trust.
I start on Monday
It's full time and I'm so excited.

I asked my dad if I was okay to borrow some money for the bus and also lunch next week
Just to tide me over till my first pay day and I'm back on track again.

He shouts
You're useless ,even with a job you still borrow money.
You shouldn't accept this job if you can't afford to get there.
You need to sort your money out and use you £400 wisely a month ,not waste it.

It's been tough because like I say I pay him the £70 back then I pay him for Amazon prime £10
I also used a Uber taxi for £6.90 which is added on to the debt.

I'm just stressed really
I know after a month at my job I'm okay and money situation is fine then.
I just feel awful relying on my dad
I just have no other family

He shouldn't be shouting at you like that. You are not worthless.

To avoid relying on him....
Could you have signed on in the 3 months that you were out of work rather than relying on him? If you're on a low income you may be entitled to claim UC even with your job.

Why did you get an Uber rather than something cheaper?

Love, you’re not a failure—far from it. You’ve kept going through a tough time, and now you’ve got a new job to get you back on track. Hopefully, in a couple of months, you’ll be out of this rough patch. Be proud of yourself for sticking it out, things will get better.

@Blablablabladibla UC was the £390 a month I have been getting
That just doesn't stretch to bills /food etc

The Uber was because I had missed the last bus ,so had no option

@BeckysNanna Thankyou
Sometimes it's nice just to hear that
My mum and Nana passed away in the last few years so now the only person I have for any sort of support is my dad .

Ah yeah that's pretty rubbish. So sorry to hear about your loss's. 💐💐

You are NOT useless. Your Dad sounds pretty shite though.

You lost your job through redundancy and have already found another so well done to you. That is a bruising and hard experience.

Maybe speak to your bank about a small arranged overdraft to tide you over until payday. That would avoid you having to be at the mercy of your Dad again. You would begin paying it off every month come payday.

He's just having a go at you because you keep borrowing money.

I'm sorry he's made you feel useless all your life though and suggest you stop borrowing money of him and don't let him get away with talking down to you. Pull him up on it, you're not a child.

Have you looked at your utilities to see if there are cheaper suppliers? One way of dramatically cutting costs is to find cheaper WiFi, phone and utility providers.