Someone who makes everything about them

[Porridgey]

This is a man I know as part of a friendship group. Very loud and "life and soul". Everyone else seems to love him, I hate the way he talks over me, I also suspect he's a bit of a misogynist, despite his apparent "love" of women.

I think I probably need to just ignore him or walk away from the group, which I don't want to do, but some recent examples.

I shared some photos of my dead DH during his military service. There were lots of lovely responses about what a hero DH was (I'm not sure that's entirely true, but he was a good man, didn't die in service), but this man responded with a a very lengthy post about his father's military service and what a negative experience that was for him as a child (particularly grating as my DC have just lost their military dad).

Any conversation about men's crimes/misdeeds against women will be met with something about how women can be awful too.

He did have a terrible childhood, his mother died young, his father away and left with a "wicked" stepmother, who by his accounts would have preferred him not to exist, but I find it all very hard work.

I'm not going to change him, so any tips to manage my response to him? He literally makes me see red and I can feel my blood boiling.

I was in a group with a woman like this. Challenged her when she dominated and took over. In response she bad mouthed me to the point that the group collapsed - although most people did not stay in touch with her. Anyway, the best option would have been to ignore her, mentally roll my eyes, and focus elsewhere.

Wait until an appropriate time and say this..
Wow you have a lot of negative opinions and big emotional reactions about me and my life, is there something I should know?
And act really confused
Men hate being called emotional as much as women, if not more.
plus he’ll panic people think he has a crush on you and hopefully give you a wide berth.

I'd honestly keep my distance. Respond in a neutral way to the things he says and back away from the friendship as much as possible.

You know in your gut that there's something off with him. Others will see it on their own with time.

I would mute him on social media and grey rock him. I wouldn't waste your breath arguing with him, although he'd really wind me up, but there's no point.