Got called a “fat dickhead@ and it’s really upset me

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Hi,

so earlier whilst out shopping, a youngish woman (25ish) rushed past us aggressively and knocked my son over. I was annoyed and asked her to be careful. This led to a barrage of abuse including her calling me a “fat dickhead”.

i’ve never thought of myself as fat. Sure, I could probably lose a stone, but I don’t think I’m someone that you would look at and think “she’s fat”… unless I’m deluded?

its really bothered me. I’m going on holiday on Friday and I feel paranoid about my appearance now.

i know I’m overthinking but it’s really got to me

She knew she was in the wrong and she said the first thing that came into her stupid head. I hope your son's OK. What a horrible woman. Try not to stew on it. It will fade in time. It would've got to me too. So many times on here I've let some throwaway comment from a stranger get to me. Hope you have a fabulous holiday xx

To give this context for you I'm going to summarise what you've just posted...

Horrid, rude, obnoxious person with zero manners or care for others knocked over a child and was then verbally abusive.

... Don't even give it brain space OP, she insulted you because that's who she is, not because it's true.

It's not about you, she chose the word 'fat' as to her it's a terrible insult.

Don't give it another thought!

She opened her mouth and said the most hurtful bollocks she could to cover up her embarrassment. A man called me a slag in traffic the other week after he nearly drove into me. Not sure how he knew my sexual history 🤔

shes obviously very unintelligent by her reaction.
Only a stupid person would come out with something like that!

People hate being in the wrong. Absolutely hate it. They will do anything they can to turn the tables so that they no longer feel that they have been made to look small, including lashing out at anyone nearby with the most hurtful phrases that are uppermost in their mind.

The fact that 'fat dickhead' was uppermost in her mind probably means that someone has called her that very recently. Nothing whatsoever to do with you, you were collateral damage.

I used to work in a secondary school and students would sometimes get abusive. It was always so much worse to be called a fat cunt than just a cunt! Potty mouths know that, so that's why they call you fat ,even when you're not!

I was in a supermarket, where there were a couple of kids in the self checkout area, running around and getting in everyone’s way. I said nothing, but looked at them and their mother clearly knew they were being a nuisance because she turned on me and called me an old bat.

It’s what stupid people do when they know they’re in the wrong and they don’t have the intelligence or nous to either apologise or excuse their behaviour.

Some people just use "fat" as a general insult. I wouldn't give it another thought.

My very slender 6ft DSD was called a fat c* at the weekend because she was knocked in the supermarket causing her to bump into someone's trolley!

I’ve been called an old hag.

I was in my early forties.

The bile they spew is what’s in their minds- it has nothing at all to do with you.

Please enjoy your holiday!!

Aww please don't overthink this. She probably just said the first insult that came into her head. I doubt it's because you're actually huge. Only stupid people make personal insults to strangers, it's because they can't think of anything effective to say with regards to what the argument is about.

I rushed past a woman once, she was holding hands with a toddler. I didn't touch her, just walked past.She said to her toddler, 'Does she want to sit on my fucking face!'

I'm still not sure what I'm meant to think about that but anyway, she just came out with the worst thing she could think of. I wouldn't let it bother you.

Dickhead,retard are the usual ones I get as I ride a bike and occasionally point out that driving too close to me or letting your dog wander all over the shared path is not a good idea. Some people just use those terms because that's how their life is and usually of limited intelligence. You never met her before, you may never see her again. Let it go

Aww, OP, I've been there sort of - years ago a guy cycling really fast on the pavement knocked a drink out of my hand. I was tired and hungover and really needed that drink so shouted at him that he should be on the road. He called me a saggy old cunt. It was the 'old' bit that got to me more than the saggy cunt bit, I was only in my 40's. People are arseholes.

This is all about her and not about you. Dismiss this thought. She knocked your son over. She is an abusive arse. Do not allow her to live in your brain for one second more. XXXXX

Fat as an insult doesn't mean you're actually fat! It's just been chosen by the person because they know it's a hurtful thing to hear, for women especially. Don't let it get to you!

I was limping along a footpath after an MRI on my knee when a woman raced around the corner with a pushchair which slammed into my shins. I was startled and said 'Watch it, you could have knocked someone over!'
She yelled back 'fat cow'! I was a size 10 at the time!

Its not your OP- its the other person who has the problem.

It's 'just' an insult. If she called you a cow, she wouldn't be saying it because she thought you had four legs and said moo. It was meant to hurt and it looks like she succeeded.

With any luck. One day she'll be an obnoxious twat to the wrong person.

Exactly.
OP i was called a fat cow (i wasnt, like you maybe stone over but bmi fine) from from an ex friends daughter...her mum was twice my size and stood next to her 🤣🤣.. i just looked her mum up and down , shook my head, smirked at daughter and went on my way.

I got called a fat cunt by a 12 year old on a bike in a Supermarket car park once - he then fell off his bike (without injuring more than his pride) because he was cycling along, looking back and laughing at me. I knew some staff and they said he was famous for it - I am quite fat but apparently it was his go to insult, varying it with old. Please tell yourself that this was her nasty internal bile spilling out and you were just unfortunate. I can lose weight; that insulting person will always be a shit, most likely.

I used to work with teenagers. One of them once called one of my colleagues a "fat cow". Now, this colleague was probably the slimmest person I've seen in my entire life. She was actually quite alarmingly thin to look at, and I'm sure that her BMI must have been severely underweight. She found this very amusing. So clearly for a certain sort of person the "fat ..." insult just rolls of the tongue without necessarily any coherent thought process behind it.

The person was just blurting out some utter shite she thought would be hurtful.
Little does she know, you have a lovely holiday planned with your family, are going to have a great time, and couldn't care less about her foul outburst. She's the dickhead.
It's not personal against you, it's just some people lack the cerebral capacity to express mild annoyance without uttering petty unimaginative insults.

Imagine being her. Ewwww

Thanks for all of the lovely replies x