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Your not a maid

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Oreomedina · 14/08/2024 14:00

My friend has been married 14 almost 15 years,she is a manager at state works 12hr shifts at home - cooks breakfast,lunch,dinner,cleans,washes,all week.. her husband works maintenance at school district 730am- 330pm. They have been trying to have children but he started drinking,smoking at 13yrs causing high blood pressure and diabetes- he stopped for a couple of years but now he drinks everyday at home after work til 10- 11pm - he doesn't even eat dinner with her but expects his plate to be pit in microwave when he decides to come inside.. She has to practically beg him to take her to breakfast, movies,lunch on weekends just so she can have a break from cooking- and that's cuz she pays then too..she pays for almost everything- home,electric,water, vehicle insurance, groceries,cuz he complsins that he is not paid enough at school district and that cuz she paid for his schooling for locksmith too. Last night she called me crying that she was tired of just doing it all and him not appreciated all she does cuz now he wants to invite his friends over to bbq - meaning her cook on her only days off..I told her she is not a maid and that's how he is treating her everyday and him not giving her children hurts her too cuz that's all she ever wanted .. I told her it seems like it's time to walk away and find someone who will appreciate,love,spend time with her instead of use her..what yall think??

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Saz12 · 14/08/2024 14:10

Her being his skivvy is something she can sort - she doesnt have to cook for him and his friends. She can go out for lunch with her mates, or go alone, or get takeaway hetself - she doesnt have to rely on him to take her. She doesnt have to do his washing, ironing, anything.

I dont like the idea that he has failed by "not goving her a baby". Sounds like he has fertility issues, caused/blamed on his choices when he was a CHILD of 13 himself.

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