Feeling sad when holidays are over -anyone else?

[lightsoutsaz]

I know this is first world problems but I'm feeling quite sad.
Our abroad holidays are now over till next year.
We went to Gran Canaria in April and Greece in July but nothing else booked till next May now.
I'm so envious of friends still with holidays.
We have booked Cyprus for May and Tenerife for November so it's in the diary but feels like too long away.

I just feel sad
I wish we had one more holiday booked.
We have a couple of uk weekends left this year but nothing fancy.

Does anyone else get this way ?
I know people will have it worse
My partner gets annoyed
In the last 10 months we have been abroad 3 times but then I'm home and it's flat again.

Ok, well, you're doing better than a lot of people! Maybe plan some nice days out?

I read somewhere that the anticipation of a holiday is better than the holiday itself! So something else to keep in mind.

Nope! I don't understand this at all. Holidays are a nice diversion or change, but not that important to me.

Sorry I can't relate either, I haven't been abroad since 2022.

To me, it sounds like the problem isn't the lack of holidays, it's your home life. Why isn't it enough? What is it about holidays you love so much? Why do you feel your normal life is flat?

When we go away I love getting home - I love my house and my general life. This sounds like it could be a factor for you.

I'm alright as long as I have something else to look forward to but I do get holiday blues initially when back. I think it's important to just think rationally about it and think I've been away twice and very lucky and some people don't even get that, time goes fast and itl be May before you know it and acknowledge the way you feel then move on from it and look forward to your weekends away.

I've also been abroad three times in nine months and going away in October, so Im just recognising how fortunate I am (my mum died in November and I said I was going to get through the first year always having a holiday to look forward to, to take my mind off it, we normally only go away once or sometimes twice).

@Portfun24 sorry to hear about your mum
My mum passed away 3 years next week
I think in a way I like to escape so I don't have to think about how much I miss her.
Lots of reminders where we live

I’m sorry to say this but it’s been three years. It’s time to start doing some nice things at home and live in the present and not in the past.

Yep. I'm looking at holidays for next year today.

OP ignore this poster - grief doesn’t work like that as we all know. I can relate to needing constant holidays. Not that I get them! Holidays are wonderful.

Someone hasn’t lost a parent yet.

We haven't been abroad since before Covid but I understand that some people live for holidays. If your next holiday is May then that's much less than a year away. It will go by quickly.

Of course op....it's holiday blues. Doesn't everyone get them?! It's so rubbish waking up without a breakfast buffet and a swimming pool to dip in

Totally normal. Holidays are a break from the mundane routines we've developed to keep the show on the road. We relax, allow ourselves treats because "I'm on my holidays, cocktails at breakfast is normal", no housework or cooking etc.

Then we get home with a shit ton of laundry to get through and have to get back into the daily grind.

Sounds like you need a project to get your teeth into.

I think it’s normal. Holidays are so much fun & better than mundane everyday life. We holiday a lot & I love planning & being on holiday.

Are you serious ??? It’s her mum . I think that’s the most heartless comment I’ve ever read here .

OP I research holidays and trips as my hobby !!! Totally get it .

Yep! My dad is gone almost 2 and half years now, I get on and live my life and enjoy things but when I stop and really think about him I am in tears within about 5 seconds and I still chat to him every day, I'm not sure when that feeling of raw grief completely goes away if ever and I am not sure I would want it to.

OP, I get the need for holidays and for a change of scenery. What about foregoing one of your abroad holidays and splitting it into 2 or 3 shorter trips? That is what we do; 7 - 10 days abroad somewhere sunny, a weekend city break in Europe and 3 or 4 long weekends around Ireland (we live in Dublin) every year so we always have something coming up.

No not really, granted we have a couple more booked for this year but that's unusual for us, it's quite common for us to have a year between holidays. So long as I have something booked, or planned, that makes me happy. I usually have our holidays planned up to 2 years in advance (if not booked, planned), I enjoy watching YouTube videos about them and planning them. Think I'd only feel jealous if I knew I was going to be able to get away at all in the foreseeable future.

@lightsoutsaz
I haven't been abroad for 9 years. When I do go I'm always glad to get home to a more green and temperate place even if the holiday was great.
You're very fortunate to be able to afford all these holidays. Not good for the planet either.
Maybe try to plan a few special days out to look forward to, otherwise you're wishing your life away and making you feel down.

I'm on a holiday now... abroad for the first time in 20 years. For lots of reasons. It's great but I'm happy at home too.

You're very, very lucky to be able to go as often as you do. There must be more to this than 'I don't have a holiday booked'... why is your life at home so boring that you're only happy when on holiday?

Absolutely this

I lost my dad 20 years ago (he died young, I was only 22) and I still think about him almost every day, especially so when my children hit a milestone. Three years is nothing…it took way more than that for the grief to become just a dull ache.

OP, I get terrible holiday blues as well. I get over it by trying to fill in a lot of catch-ups with my friends to distract me. I do always need a holiday on the horizon to look ahead to and research to keep me buoyant

I make the most of every weekend to avoid ‘holiday blues’.

But I am very privileged in that I go away at least 6 or 7 times a year (single, no kids). Maybe I would feel different if I only went away once or twice.

I think be thankful you get to travel! 🙂

You go away abroad twice a year!!!! That's more than most.

Do you think if you went 3 x a year you'd just be pining for 4 times a year? As in is this an itch that's not going to be satisfied. Is there something you can change in day to day life that would help (my day to day life is a nightmare so I know that's what I need to sort!)

Or would it help if you went abroad once and broke the other holiday into lots of smaller ones? You just be spending a lot already on holidays.