Potential trigger and spoiler. It ends with us.

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Has anyone seen this? Only released on Friday. I found it harrowing tbf. It reminded me of my ex which is never good.

The Blake Lively film? I was planning to.

Can you tell us what the problematic theme is without an outright spoiler?

I read the book and it really upset me.

It reminded me very much of my ex.

Domestic abuse.

Oh. Hmm, yes might skip that.

I thought the trailer was vague but there's such a lack of films being released.

Yeah the guy everyone thinks is great but is a closet fucker.

Well at least you've warned us. I'd find that triggering too. So you've done a good deed.

Sorry you had to sit through it.

Blake Lively is touting it as this fun romantic film and it really isn’t.

I won’t go and see it. The author of the book, Colleen Hoover, blocked a girl when she told Colleen that Colleen’s son tried to SA her when she was just 16. Colleen is so problematic anyway that I can’t support anything she works on. She wanted to make an ‘It Ends With Us’ colouring in book. That’s right, glorifying domestic violence. In one book the characters talk about their baby’s big balls.

I would urge anyone to look into her before supporting this.

Have you seen the author of It Ends With Us has written a sequel called It Starts With Us? It rounds off the story which might help. I'm sorry that might sound insensitive, it's just a suggestion in case it helps someone.

@CherriesBerriesAndBananas cross post there. I didn't know any of that. Christ.

I couldn't understand why the books were so popular - I couldn't finish either of them - I tried both, found them horrible to read.

No, and I’m not going to. It will trigger me.

Even the trailers on TV are triggering me.

I have not read the books, but it seems like all the press I have seen are really clear that it looks like a fun romance, but has a much darker underpinning.

Wow. I thought it was only me. I read “ends with us” sometime prior to 2019 when given a copy by co worker. Liked but not loved. I have abusive ex and it was a bit much for me especially the refrigerator magnet angering him. Then I read black and blue. Finished it and decided no more Colleen Hoover for me. Thank you for confirming I’m not alone in finding all these books too close to my experience.

Out of interest - is it too close to the bone? Or does it seem to discount and trivialize your experience?

My ex is a doctor also. I definetly recall where he saw a magnet she had from the past…maybe a trip she took with a previous boyfriend and he gets angered and abusive about it. Simple things like that…things you could never anticipate…would set my ex off. And the romance of it and the anticipation of the baby only to have it all fall apart. The abuse was there but having a child unleashed it. It was an endless source of things to attack me over. I’m equally educated but you would have thought I was an idiot who couldn’t handle a baby dog and home. Honestly I probably have read over 300 books since then but I can still remember that book. I would say overall I don’t like reading about DV and I will not watch a movie with rape scenes.

Not trivializing…shockingly accurate and perceptive

That'll teach me to watch things to the end instead of assuming.

Thanks. That's very thoughtful.

This and, like PP said, Hoover is problematic. Hard pass on this film.

Oh no! I wanted to go and watch this film and do a solo date to the cinema this week. I don't think I'll bother... as I've not read the books! But I thought they were more light hearted as they seem popular and everyone seems to read them on holiday!