Not sure the point to this post other than to find others who have had a baby and had little family support.
My baby is 8 weeks now and my mum and sister have visited twice, my dad met her once at the hospital after birth, and my brother still hasn't met her.
Maybe my mum only coming twice since I gave birth is normal but l've let on a number of times that I need support, just to have her come round for a cuppa and to give me a hug, some advice and tell me everything will be okay. My mum is retired and has a car, so even though we live 30 minutes away, there’s no real reason she can’t come over.
I had an emergency c-section and it was like nothing had happened - the first of the 2 visits, she asked me if I wanted to meet her at a shopping centre 7 days after birth rather than come visit us at home. I had to explain that I was in a lot of pain, and reminded her that I couldn’t drive and had a 1 week old baby to take care of.
I tried to call my mum 2 weeks ago and then text saying I just needed to hear her voice as l'd just got back from a stressful trip with baby and was a little worked up. She didn't call back and just text me saying 'check if she's hungry, needs her nappy changing or she's tired. Once she's settled, do something for yourself to relax.’
I hear new mums talking about their amazing relationship with their own mums and how much effort they make to be in their baby’s life, and all I feel is jealousy. I’m on my own every day, and knowing my mum is free most days but doesn’t seem to want to see us is tough.
I don't need her to be there to look after my baby, I know that's my job and I love being a mum - but I want her company, and part of me wants her to be there to care of me a little bit. I’m 29 years old but I just want my mum to be there for me :(