I am in thirties and met my biological father for the first time a couple months ago. Have met up twice now.
we text sometimes, friends on Facebook.
I feel like I’d like to see him again. I don’t know if I will ever see him as my father, more like a friend and perhaps some answers and closure!
he is late fifties. Seems like a nice enough chap. My mum has admitted making it hard for him to see but then he should have tired harder 🤷♀️
he also admitted he hasn’t been the best gather to any of his children even the ones he lives/lived with, says he prioritised work, drinking and boys holidays when they were young and his wife did it all.
he has a wife and children a few years younger than me. I also have older half siblings he has from a previous relationship before I came along. I’ve actually met them but not the younger ones.
do I meet his wife and children one day? I’m not sure they even want to!
Should he meet my children? My children are aware of him and stuff but they only know my stepdad as grandad. My stepdad raised me from a young age so I want to stay respectful of him but we aren’t overly close now.
I quite liked meeting bio dad without my children in tow. I felt like I could be me for once and not mum. But I’m not against the kids meeting him.
has anyone else been through similar? Did you stay in contact? Did you ever see him as a father figure? I say him knowing usually it’s meeting an absent father for the first time rather than a mother (but I know this happens to!).