Do you feel uncomfortable during the weekends?

[PeanutPies]

I struggle with anxiety and lately noticed this about myself…I feel uncomfortable specially Nancy’s when shops close early etc. it feels as as ‘normalcy’ as I know it is missing and that makes me anxious…does anyone else feel this?

Who’s Nancy?

No I don't, i'm usually out doing something nice.

But if you struggle with anxiety, well, that explains it.

Shop opening hours don't vary much from weekend to weekdays where I am. Maybe open an hour later on Sundays.

@WithnailOnTour no idea who Nancy is, was trying to type ‘on Sundays’!

Yes, I do. Weekends seem to have a weird vibe that feels off to me.. and I end up more sensitive and anxious.
It is daft as I don't work, so it is not like it is days off or anything.

I think I’m struggling due to not having a set of tasks to complete- maybe this helps for me to not focus on my anxiety during the week days whereas the lack of structure over the weekends doesn’t seem to help

Yeah, a bit. More so when I had a job I loved and couldn't want to fuck off out the house and drive at high speed to my office.

But yeah...I think it's more of a long-held memory of that dead time on Sundays from when I was a kid. Late afternoon when there was nothing on tv, nowhere left to go, everything felt very flat and closed off.

@XenoBitch Thats exactly how I feel- sensitive, anxious and teary.

Yes, I'm always more anxious and depressed on weekends. I'm ND so not sure if its because the structure of the week lapses.

Oh yes HappyLittleNarwhal Sunday afternoon when I was a child seemed to go on forever! Much worse than now as shops weren't open at all. I can remember thinking, something must be happening somewhere but what? And where? Recently I was trying to explain to my DH (who is from another country) how utterly dull & depressing it was but he didn't really get it.

I also don't like the lack of structure when on holiday - it makes me feel anxious & uneasy

Reading some information about anxiety (I think it was from one of the UK charities that exist to help people who have it), I remember a few paragraphs where they said that people who had jobs that were very pressurised often found they would feel effects of anxiety and panic in situations that were supposed to be relaxing, or less focussed. The example given was when at the hairdresser where you are not in much control of the time you spend there, but your role is to switch off and have a haircut.
It may be a consequence of knowing there are no demands but fewer options for distraction.

Not so much weekends but a few years ago when I did go through a patch of mild anxiety/depression I felt like that on Christmas day for a couple, a bit trapped at home because nowhere was open to go to where there would be other people (being around other people has always been a coping strategy for me).

do you work, op?

could you give yourself a list of tasks to do, or just plan your time at the weekend so that you are kept really busy?

I used to feel like this particularly when I lived alone. I have a job which is very people focused and then I'd have two days where sometimes I would barely speak to anyone and my anxiety would run riot.

I live with DH now and I although I still experience anxiety it's not to the same extent.

Yep! I hate Sundays especially Sunday afternoon. Feels dead and sleepy. I love the Friday afternoon feeling at work though and I’m always excited for the weekend - the novelty wears off about midday Saturday! Roll on Monday’s routine 🤣🤣

I wouldn’t call it anxiety inducing for me but I don’t like the fact that lots of places close early on a Sunday afternoon - always rushing to the supermarket at 3pm to get things for the week and just wish I could go at any time.

Do you have a job you find stressful? That could explain the creeping dread on Sundays, you're dreading work on Monday?

Not anxious on Sundays (I used to be when I had a stressful job!) but I've never liked Sundays very much. The lethargy, the world feeling closed, there's a sadness to them I feel.

I love Fridays, Saturday has a nice exciting feel and Monday is all about the hustle and bustle but Sunday...it's a sad, non sort of day!

I used to feel like this a few months ago when I was suffering from bad anxiety.
I would literally sit all day feeling super anxious or if I went out, I didn't feel right.

I think when you are very anxious, a break in the safety of routine can really affect you

I find weekends harder to navigate, with young kids. There is less structure, no play groups etc. It’s generally family time for other people but my DH works most weekends so it feels like a long slog with the kids.

Some people like structure, maybe try structuring your weekends. It could be simple stuff and you haven’t mentioned if you live alone or with others.

The back to school blues? I think most people get that on a Sunday evening.

Yes I need routine and structure in my life no matter what day it is otherwise my mh detoriates rapidly. I don't always achieve this but I try to have a plan and I love a list.