No idea what I've done, would you ask?

[Fastergo]

I go on a weekly activity with a group of friends. I've been doing it for about 3 years, like the people and consider them friends, but only really see them at those activity. 7 people, men and women.

When I first started going, another woman came. I thought we got on Ok. She's currently going through a horrible divorce, is angry at the world. She stopped coming, which we all understood was because she didn't have childcare since her ex was no longer at home. We were sorry she could no longer come, but kept meeting at the normal time, always an open invitation. Most of us kept in touch, I thought I'd sent some supportive messages, but we were never close friends, so not that often.

Anyway, she has now told some other members of the group that she'd like to come back, but won't while I'm there. No one seems to know why, they're all saying it's her loss, not to worry about it. I genuinely have no idea what I've done to upset her. I'm not worried as such, but I don't like to think I'm responsible for someone already going through a horrible time feeling worse, and coming back to the activity would do her good, if she's able.

I feel like I should try and clear things up, however, in her current frame of mind where she seems to take offence everywhere (I'm not the only one) I feat it might just make things worse, especially if it something she's taken the wrong way and I have to try and justify myself.

WWYD?

I've never met her husband! It's possible being two single women in the social circle has created an element of competition, I suppose. I have lots of male friends, but no suitors though and that's the way I like it

Don't give her oxygen, she's just like a nasty playground bully.

Fwiw the group have taken my side. She can't or won't explain what the problem is, they sympathise with the trauma she's going through, but don't especially want her and her drama back. It's being discussed in a WFF kind of way.

There’s your answer.

@rainydaysaway got there before me.
You nicely warned her about the other friend, who is your 'enemy', and without her in the mix, chances are you might have become friends with 'Mrs Recently Divorced Who Won't Be In The Same Room As @Fastergo '. It's her loss.

Maybe, but what I also should have said (sorry) is that the two of them have now fallen out, very publically.

Whatever it is, I'm really concerned about whether it's best to leave it or try and get to the bottom of it to resolve things.

So she's had a proper falling out with someone else, and is now trying to fall out with you? She sounds like v hard work (and i do sympathise with the divorce situation, going through same myself and know the stress can send you a bit doolally, but there's no excuse for taking it out on others who've nothing to do with it).

But she didn’t actually ask?

I don't think so, it sounds like she was also having a bit of a go about something that woman has done "wrong", but that's not being held against her as much as whatever it is I've done.

One of the other women is due to see her next week and has said she'll try and find out, but I'm not sure that's a good thing.

Let it go. She's behaving like a bullying 8 year old.

That sounds like such hard work to unravel I couldn't even be bothered with it. Your group isn't bothered and doesn't want her back, she's a trouble maker trying to push you out of the group. I wouldn't imagine she has an explanation, so there's no need to ask for one .

I meant you push them! Sorry, addled brain day

I think your friends might be fibbing about not knowing why.
surely the normal response if someone says “I’m not coming back while she’s there” would be to ask “why? What happened?” I can’t believe they didn’t