Overwhelmed

[Rachey28]

I need to sort myself out. At the moment I'm just completely and utterly overwhelmed with everything.
I have 2 children my littlest one is a toddler and thoroughly in the terrible twos. I have a busy job and a husband that works very long hours.
I need to get back on top of everything. The cleaning, cooking, organising the family, my finances, my weight, seeing my friends. Right now I'm stuck in freeze mode and just silently panicking that I am an awful Mum and wife while burying my head in my phone. Any practical tips to get my head together and my life together would be appreciated ❤️

I’m pretty sure you aren’t an awful mum - I’m guessing putting lots of time into mothering is why everything else has fallen by the wayside.

These aren’t your problems alone - you and your husband are a unit, and you need someone to bounce ideas off - so share your worries with him and use him to help you with a solution.

I would focus on two things at a time - like sorting the house out and seeing your friends. You need some pleasure in with the tasks.

Breakdown the jobs with your husband’s help - have a look at things like shared calendars, and jobs lists mounted on the wall. Looking at organising tips for ADHD is probably useful - doesn’t matter if you don’t have it, simple solutions will help with your overwhelm. A slob comes clean is a good book, Divvy up jobs with your husband - even if you are looking after the kids full time, he needs to help. you should have equal time off. Remember not to hold yourself to crazy standards.

Buy a new bit of clothing or two and refresh make up if you wear it. Maybe get a haircut. And then plan a night out with friends. Remember to book the next date in before you leave them.

After 3 months you should be able to add in a new area to tackle. It’s not a race.

If the two of you would benefit from a date night do that too.

At all costs be compassionate to yourself. You may be in a bit of a pickle now, but you got here trying to do your best.

Sorry I just reread you are both working full on.

Get a cleaner as part of tackling the house. You might say you can’t afford it but sit down with him and work it out to afford if you possibly can.