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DH turning 40, baby is 8 months

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VedasMama · 09/08/2024 23:19

Hi, DH is turning 40 soon, and I have an 8 month old DD, who likes her schedule set, otherwise she starts throwing tantrums. So we can't go out for much time, as she is still napping twice a day. I was thinking of may be doing a relaxed cottage holiday, do that her schedule is not much disturbed. I live near London. Do you guys know of anything which is nearby and budget friendly. Also if you have any other suggestions of how to celebrate with a baby, please let me know as I can't think of anything. Thank you.

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TheSquareMile · 10/08/2024 01:24

VedasMama · 09/08/2024 23:19

Hi, DH is turning 40 soon, and I have an 8 month old DD, who likes her schedule set, otherwise she starts throwing tantrums. So we can't go out for much time, as she is still napping twice a day. I was thinking of may be doing a relaxed cottage holiday, do that her schedule is not much disturbed. I live near London. Do you guys know of anything which is nearby and budget friendly. Also if you have any other suggestions of how to celebrate with a baby, please let me know as I can't think of anything. Thank you.

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HeddaGarbled · 10/08/2024 01:48

Ask your H what he wants to do. He might not want to go on holiday. That’s a recent invention for big birthdays. Maybe he’d like to get a babysitter and go out for dinner. Maybe he’d like a nice meal at home. Maybe he’d like family round to your house. Maybe he’d just like a day out with you and the baby.

Singleandproud · 10/08/2024 02:06

Taking a baby away is not relaxing, you have to try and cope without all your normal things.

What does your DH want to do? He might actually prefer a night alone in a hotel for a good night's sleep. You can get rooms at Twickenham stadium that overlook the field, I'm sure football club probably do similar if he likes either of those

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Copperoliverbear · 10/08/2024 02:12

Would you child not nap in the pram, maybe you should try and teach her to do so, as you might have another couple of years of daytime napping and it would be tedious being stuck at home for so long.

LittleLantern123 · 10/08/2024 07:49

If you can't go out much because of the naps I wouldn't waste money on a cottage...you will just end up stuck in there rather than stuck in at home.
Now might be a good time to start getting out and about a bit more rather than being slaves to nap times, surely if your daughter is tired she will fall asleep in her pram eventually?
Ask your husband what he wants to do for his birthday, it avoids any disappointment or mismatched expectations!

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 10:05

You are right. She does fall asleep eventually in her pram but only for 15-20 minutes and after that she gets more cranky as generally at home she sleeps for 2 hours. Then you can't enjoy anything with a crying baby. Because of this we don't go out much, but now I have started feeling stuck at home. I don't know what to do.

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 10:06

In the pram she only sleeps for 15-20mins. Any idea how can I teach her to get her full nap in the pram?

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Brooklyn99999 · 10/08/2024 10:11

My twins don’t nap well anywhere but their cots so I know what you mean OP. When they were on two naps we used to time days out around them, so leave about the time of their first nap so they’d sleep in the car. Get to destination and then leave in time for them to have seconds nap in car on way home.

snoozeshade over pram prolonged the pram naps. Ours always did an hour in the morning then two in the afternoon but they handled it really well then the second was cut short for any reason, we’d just put them to bed a bit earlier! They’ve never done long pram naps, one hour max, usually less.

they’re on one nap now, 12 til 2, I actually find it harder to plan around that than I did when they had two 😂

BeaRF75 · 10/08/2024 10:16

Ask him! But the obvious answer is to get a babysitter and go out just the two of you.

Floralnomad · 10/08/2024 10:18

Seriously just live your life and your baby will start to adjust , she is only this rigid because it is what you’ve allowed to happen .

mindutopia · 10/08/2024 10:36

I’d ask your Dh. For my 40th with a toddler, we had a fancy dinner at home, I got to have a day to do something I enjoyed (without Dh or the kids), and lie ins both days that weekend.

If I was going away, at that age, I’d hate to say it, but I’d rather have a weekend away alone than a family holiday. Having a couple days to re-charge and rest without parenting a child in an unfamiliar environment. Obviously, not on my actual birthday, I’d want to be with dc and Dh, but if I was to have a weekend away as a present, I’d definitely enjoy it more solo.

Brooklyn99999 · 10/08/2024 10:42

VedasMama · 09/08/2024 23:19

Hi, DH is turning 40 soon, and I have an 8 month old DD, who likes her schedule set, otherwise she starts throwing tantrums. So we can't go out for much time, as she is still napping twice a day. I was thinking of may be doing a relaxed cottage holiday, do that her schedule is not much disturbed. I live near London. Do you guys know of anything which is nearby and budget friendly. Also if you have any other suggestions of how to celebrate with a baby, please let me know as I can't think of anything. Thank you.

We did center parcs for my 30th with 6m old twins. Had a great time, it’s very family friendly & everything is close so you can go back to lodge for naps.

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 18:36

Brooklyn99999 · 10/08/2024 10:11

My twins don’t nap well anywhere but their cots so I know what you mean OP. When they were on two naps we used to time days out around them, so leave about the time of their first nap so they’d sleep in the car. Get to destination and then leave in time for them to have seconds nap in car on way home.

snoozeshade over pram prolonged the pram naps. Ours always did an hour in the morning then two in the afternoon but they handled it really well then the second was cut short for any reason, we’d just put them to bed a bit earlier! They’ve never done long pram naps, one hour max, usually less.

they’re on one nap now, 12 til 2, I actually find it harder to plan around that than I did when they had two 😂

Thanks I will try both of your suggestions. Don't know what I will do if I had twins, I get so overwhelmed with one.

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MyInduction · 10/08/2024 18:40

VedasMama · 10/08/2024 10:06

In the pram she only sleeps for 15-20mins. Any idea how can I teach her to get her full nap in the pram?

Mine has just turned 1 and has always preferred sleeping in her cot. If she sleeps in her pram then she fights it for ages and then sleeps for 20 mins max. Some babies and toddlers sleep anywhere and others don't. The posters telling you to 'teach' your baby to sleep in her pram just got lucky with theirs. I honestly won't go on holidays until my DD is older.

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 18:48

MyInduction · 10/08/2024 18:40

Mine has just turned 1 and has always preferred sleeping in her cot. If she sleeps in her pram then she fights it for ages and then sleeps for 20 mins max. Some babies and toddlers sleep anywhere and others don't. The posters telling you to 'teach' your baby to sleep in her pram just got lucky with theirs. I honestly won't go on holidays until my DD is older.

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Thank you for that, I wondered if it's only us who are not going out. My family and friends keep pushing us to go out, while the anytime we do she always cries and cries, ultimately we don't enjoy a thing.

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MyInduction · 10/08/2024 19:03

VedasMama · 10/08/2024 18:48

Thank you for that, I wondered if it's only us who are not going out. My family and friends keep pushing us to go out, while the anytime we do she always cries and cries, ultimately we don't enjoy a thing.

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No you're not alone. It's so stressful going anywhere. It's really not worth going anywhere far. I have to go out between naps and meals to make things slightly less stressful.

Missmarymack2 · 10/08/2024 19:21

A holiday with a baby isn’t really a holiday. My first holiday with ds was around the same age. We don’t live in London but stayed in a hotel around an hour from where we live with a forest park nearby. We went for a long walk in the forest followed by dinner and drinks in our hotel. I still remember how wrecked I was because I did the night needs that night and was woken at around 4 plus early morning. It was a nice getaway all the same and we all enjoyed it. I’m sure you could do similar in lots of places around London. I think a true gift for him for this milestone birthday would be a baby free night with friends and a lie in though, if that is possible.

Floralnomad · 10/08/2024 20:37

Mine napped in the car as we were visiting / dealing with our horses or getting from A to B , they never napped in a cot during the day . The younger one napped in the car on the school run for the older one .

DaveWatts · 10/08/2024 20:41

Elliesmumma · 10/08/2024 19:13

https://luxuryfamilyhotels.co.uk

The New Forest one is probably your closest.

I came on to recommend these! Honestly the best way to stay somewhere with a baby and still have it feel like a treat. The Ickworth is not too far from London and it's absolutely gorgeous.

JC89 · 10/08/2024 20:49

I know it doesn't work for everyone, but have you tried putting baby in a carrier for a nap? Mine will sleep longer in a carrier than a pram, if they start stirring I can start moving and it sends them back off to sleep half the time.

PolaroidPrincess · 10/08/2024 20:53

DC2 was the same age when I reached 40.

We went to a very naice local restaurant and left DC2 with DGPs, in our house with cups of milk as she was a bottle refuser.

She wasn't entirely happy happy upon or return but nothing a quick feed and a cuddle didn't resolve Wink

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 22:46

JC89 · 10/08/2024 20:49

I know it doesn't work for everyone, but have you tried putting baby in a carrier for a nap? Mine will sleep longer in a carrier than a pram, if they start stirring I can start moving and it sends them back off to sleep half the time.

I will try that, thanks 😊

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VedasMama · 10/08/2024 22:48

PolaroidPrincess · 10/08/2024 20:53

DC2 was the same age when I reached 40.

We went to a very naice local restaurant and left DC2 with DGPs, in our house with cups of milk as she was a bottle refuser.

She wasn't entirely happy happy upon or return but nothing a quick feed and a cuddle didn't resolve Wink

I think we will need to do the same, go out for a dinner, and do the holiday or any big celebrations later on.

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Overthebow · 10/08/2024 23:19

You just have to get on with doing days out, it must be miserable being stuck in the house all summer, do you never go anywhere like to the beach for the day? I have a similar age baby who doesn't like napping out of the house, but we just go out and he either naps or he doesn't, we don't stress about it. We have a 4 year old too so we don't have the option to stay in for naps.

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