Dh hasn’t got a clue about our finances

[Camelothoof]

Does anybody else feel like the fucking secretary/treasurer in your house?

dh just asked “who’s our mortgage with” and it’s made me realise that he actually has bo clue about our finances. Is this weird, or is this similar for anyone else?

Yep. Same here. But I don't mind because I'm better with money than DH.

Weird, maybe stop doing everything yourself!

I think in most relationships one person gravitates to taking on finances. I do and am happy that way! I tell him about it regularly and write things down in case I go under a bus.

To be fair DH does most of the finance stuff in our household. We do have separate personal finance as well.

Most kids admin are done by me though and we both work full time

Dh does most of the finance stuff I do most of the kids admin stuff. Just the other day I had to ask who our insurance was with. I did look at loads of quotes and things with dh but couldn't remember who we settled on

Oopsie! Thats me! My dh’s mother was an accountant so he is meticulous with finances. Its just part of our division of labour. He has just drawn up a master document for me and our adult children that will be a road map if he predeceases me.

I do most of that stuff for us, but I owned the property before I met him so things like mortgage / insurance / utility bills were already in place. No skin off my nose to carry on managing that, he does other practical things.

I agree with pp that it's fine for one person to be in charge of the finances as long as DH is pulling his weight in other ways.

Yes, i honestly get so sick and tired of explaining sinking funds to him. He moans about how much i put into savings and cant seem to grasp we spend money from these accounts throughout the year on holidays, birthdays etc and if i don't keep topping them up we will have no fucking money left in the accounts to do these things next year!

This for me. DH does not keep a good track of finances at all. Just last month he missed his car insurance renewal and is now paying more than he needs to. That is why I take on pretty much everything money wise. He occasionally get s told how much savings we have. He can see our mortgage on his banking app, but pays no attention to it.

I deal with the finances but it's my career so I really love it. DH has apps to all our shared bank accounts and mortgage but doesn't really check them, asks for an update of our savings every few months. I do the credit card, savings and bank account switching for better deals regularly so difficult for him to keep track of where we are from one month to the next. I've finally got him to do some bank ac switching for rewards and he's loving it, he must be around £1k up over the last year (I exhausted mine a while back).

I've got a fairly good idea of the finances but DH is the one who keeps a spreadsheet and who has a filing cabinet that isn't just a drawer he shoves everything into. I'm very grateful!

I find it shocking that any grown adult isn't aware of their household finances - women on here included!

How can you not know who your mortgage provider is?!