My husband has a physical job and works hard during the day. I run a photography business from home while juggling the childcare of our small children. My husband has hereditary health issues in his family, particularly all the males, relating to their heart/cholesterol/blood pressure. He has always been really fit and lean, going to the gym, running etc and always presented himself well on nights out.
I do all of the cleaning and laundry in our house. He will fill the dishwasher and empty the bin before work but that’s about his lot. I regularly nag about this and get nowhere. Recently he has been lying on the sofa drinking cider and eating crisps on a semi regular basis (not just the weekend). He has stopped exercising and put on quite a few stone. I started off making a few comments as a joke about him not going to the gym but he is not taking the hint at all. Any time I push him on it he says he’ll start the next week and never does. We went to the races a few weeks ago and it was the first time I was out with him that I didn’t get that feeling towards him of thinking he looked great. I was (ashamed to admit this but) slightly embarrassed by how he’d let himself go. There were a few jokes from friend’s we met too. All the other guys there that we know clearly stay in shape and had these nice trendy suits on. He had dug some old suit out the back of the wardrobe and it barely fit him.
If you switched all of that round and made it about a woman I’m sure a man would be shot down for saying anything but I’m just at my wits end. Do I just sit back and let him become more and more unhealthy when there’s a real risk of a heart attack? Plus the fact our relationship is really suffering because of his lazy attitude to life right now 🙄 What can I do?